Children and Divorce

Divorce is hard on everyone, especially the kids. And the effects of divorce on children can be broad and deep. As a divorced parent you need the proper tools to help create the healthiest possible divorce for you and your children. Separation and divorce create unique challenges for parents and the stress, anger, hostility and fear that come with divorce parenting can be overwhelming. But, if Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman, Bruce Willis and Demi Moore, Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger, Britney Spears and Kevin Federline can do it, surely you can learn to be a better divorced parent. Arm yourself with the tools you need to help your kids.

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[mattdoyle1964]

Name calling is a sign of shallowness. I have committed my life to counseling families and couples and I agree with part of what you said, but not the venom. My goal is to help those who have and/or will divorce to create something that is less damaging. I wish you well, and I would appreciate it if you would limit your comments to more positive things. Otherwise, I'll just have to block you. Healthy debate is good. Name calling and hostility, not.

[nyjets48]

Me and my brother had recently had our parents divorced. My brother is seventeen and I am 12. They always say it will get better but my mom had moved out and only has a two bedroom apartment. For me, It will not get better. My parents still fight and my dad refuses to pay a weekley check to support my mom. I haven't seen my brother in a month and divorce sucks. Be lucky that you dont have it like me.

[mattdoyle1964]

I hope your parents stop fighting soon. I know you must be hurting. Parents make dumb choices sometimes, but I bet they both love you dearly. Talk to them about how you feel.

Matt

[h60562]

My parents got divorced over 10 years ago and i still haven't got over it.

I've tried to but each time I am near either of them I feel physically ill, i've gone downhill in life and have to take drugs to cope, has anyone got any advice they can give me, the feelings just don't seem to go away no matter what I do.

[mattdoyle1964]

Sounds like your parents either underestimated the impact their decision would have on you, or they made really bad choices after that decision. Control what you can. Many of us make it a life's mission to try to control the very things we cannot. I wish you well. Thank you for the comment.

[Fayerz101]

my mum and dad got divoreded about 4 months ago . life has been very hard they always fight and my dad always talks about my mum. i know she walked out on us but that does not change anything in live. your still my mum and dad and that will never change . my brothers understand its happened but im only 12 and i dont really understand . each day i cant stand that when i wake up mums not going to be there. she will always be in my heart. dad : i just want my mum back its hard love you mum and dadx

[mattdoyle1964]

Many things are hard for us to understand about adult relationships when we are young. Love your parents as you always have, things will be better.

[TheSeattlegreen]

I hate all u humans that make babies together, then realize life isnt about themselves anymore, & r selfish enough 2 say im out F*** this. THEY R DESTROYING childrens minds. HUMANS SUCK.. AND YES compared 2 all u humans I am an ALIEN AND PROUD OF IT.....

[gagirl101]

My parents were married 24 years. They've been going through the divorce for over a year now. My mom isn't being reasonable at all and my dad is getting help. I live with my dad. Even though I can't stand either of them. But I get along with them. It's sad that people can't like their fathers anymore.

[pinkbelly7123]

watching this because it JUST happened to me... :(

[saintoccasionally]

The divorce does damage. It's unnatural to see your parents relationship severed.

[JIZZYcookieMONSTER]

@TheSeattlegreen excuse me their ol'e chap,but by chance,are you related to a certain irken named Zim?

[rj33ghetto2]

I going through this with my parents I am 14 years old and my parents and my mom is planning to get a divorce I need help and advice how to take this ..

[aphestius]

My parents got a divorce today and i want to live with my father but my mom won't allow me to cause she calls him the bad guy and herself the good guy but i think the opposite. Why must this happen to me and all the other kids in the world!

[QuizzySox14101]

my parents just went through a divorce.. im 15 and my brother is 10... he went fine with the divorce.. but i feel like it was my fault.. i feel like i did something that made everything wrong... i also wish i could talk to someone.. but i feel like i have to say what my parents want to hear...i have to take care of my parents.. bc both r having a hard time too... my bro looks at me for help.. and im so mad at my parents.. i take it out on him.. why did this have to happen to me?!

[jeanarnie36]

I know your situation must suck, but using drugs to cope with your pain is a rather "cheap" and ineffective way to go. You will actually just exacerbate the situation because when you get sober again the pain will still be there. Trying to run away from your pain will not do it. However, if you look out for some free and/or affordable therapy services around your area, you ought to be helped the best way. Try it out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain in seeking therapy. Good luck.

[Spadadiforza]

I wish my sons mom would pull her head out of her ass....I wish she'd see this video.

God I love my little boy....

[lissat22]

i have a sister who is 8 and im almost twelve and my parents got divorced 4 years ago and ont go into the same room together. i dont see him ever...... sometimes on holidays. i say dont have kids if you dont trully love that person. cuz in a childs eyes is really hard.