Is being gay a choice? - Part 1

In this episode of The Gloves Are Off, Cathy Debuono & Jill Bennett discuss whether being gay is a choice or something that is inborn.

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[frasse121]

hmmmmm, i belive that you are born gay, but it takes time do discover it, for some people you discover it when youre 40, and for some when youre 10 :P just so everyone know what i think^^

[66EscapE]

@wrlddstrctn we don't keep it alive and praise it, it's part of our nature. We don't choose it, we can't change it.

[qijino1236]

I believe for a lot of people being gay isn't a choice due to biology, but for some people, bi's and pan's, it is a choice.

[viccyvicsen]

Having been lesbian All of my life (tried dating men but NO chemistry there), and having had some really bad emotional experiences with women (like them cheating), why is it I don't 'turn' hetero? Because it is not a choice.

[appolonia78]

I work at the schools and have seen young children who already act gay. Girls that prefer football over barbie. When I take a look at their families, the girl or "tomboy" always has an older brother or a brother who is close in age. When i look at the "feminine/girly" boys, I always see that either the father is absent, they are an only child, they have no older brother or they have nothing but sisters... In these cases, it's psychological! The other cases I believe are Choice/Preference!

[appolonia78]

So based on my experiencing it first, if I ever experience another "girl crush" again, I will CHOOSE NOT TO! Because Ive already been there and even though i loved her so much, my body just did not go with hers. It messed with me every time I saw her I saw a MAN, i loved her as a MAN, but in bed she was NOT! It was like an illusion and I had to wake up! For me, it was a choice! But Ive known and seen little girls, who already think they are boys and for them I think it's a different story!

[appolonia78]

From my experience as a straight girl... First I have to say that you can fall in love with another woman... It happened to me... I fell in love and left my boyfriend for her... The thing that got confusing was that I kept seeing her as a man because she acted, talked, walked, dressed like a man... But in bed, it was a woman and that really messed with me! Also, the oral sex was GREAT!! But after a while I didn't know what else to do because everything else was with plastic. I was lost!

[ziled023]

i have to add i don't think it's a choice because there's a lot of people even now that have gone to the extremes as to commit suicide because of the bullying because they're gay. i don't think anyone would chose to go through the hell that a lot of kids, teenagers and even adults have had to endure if they had a CHOICE to be what "is supposed to be the normal".

[ziled023]

i think you can't help who you fall in love and that's what defines your sexuality, as for the ones who call themselves bisexual i think it's exactly that just a sexual thing were love feelings don't exist or are too afraid to really accept who they are.

[convoku]

i dont think its a choice or that youre born that way, i think its psychological

[MellyM29]

I never chose to be gay,I knew since I was at around the age 7-8 years old that I was gay I've always had feelings for girls since a very young age so I believe we are born gay and that it's not a decision.But a lot of people choose to be gay tho cuz of past relationships with the opposit sex wich didn't go too well and all but half the people out there are born this way while a small percentage chose to be gay