Destroy "yourself"

"A Wise man looks Ridiculous in the Company of Fools."

watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1l5JeFyD5Mw

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[meiastar]

Wow. I agree with everything you said, and that part about manipulation at the end I've never thought about before...it sure gave me a lot to think about! I always try so hard to be nice to everyone and please everyone, and all my friends are strong women who say what they think, as if by being friends with them I can tap into their realness. I have difficulty with the guilt that follows saying what I think though. I don't know what to do with that.

Have you ever read about the enneagram?

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

@ difficulty with guilt - that's you, not accepting yourself. When you accept, "this is what I think, who I am, and that's ok", the guilt will disappear. It's something I'm very much still working on. Though I may be more outspoken than some people I know, by the same token, I hold back A LOT in fear of hurting someone's feelings. But, when you live in fear, of someone else's reaction, that controls who you are. In my own journey I'm trying to actively embrace that if I feel like sayin something

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

chances are it's something that NEEDS to be said, whether or not it can be interpreted as "mean" - chances are it's something a person needs to hear - quite possibly because they dont perceive themselves the way you do ad chance are, you see them a lot more clearly than they see themselves and you telling them "____" often, surprisingly could be to their benefit. Does that make sense?

[ParamoreIsSahweet]

i wish you wrote music.

[emilylengriffin]

I think it can be difficult sometimes to not fall into what other people want you to be.

[shanarquia]

Idk who I am anymore, who I should be, who I want to be...idk anymore.

[FreestyleBrain]

paris hilton is not herself! she is a product by the world, especially the american world

[tuttifruttisummerluv]

bc PH breaks this traditional role by being blunt. Traditionally, women are taught to say what they feel but also provide positive feedback, so as to not hurt the recipient's feelings.

bc ph is blunt, many ppl do not know how 2 respond 2 her. They either respond with1) admiration or 2)confusion that turns 2 dislike bc they have no other way of relating their feelings.

sociology challenges us 2 understand that these assigned traditional roles are arbitrary and to change society for the better

[tuttifruttisummerluv]

Risa, I've watched ur videos for a while and I've always loved 2 listen 2 u. This is the 1st time that I have ever commented, this video is something that can speak 2 just about any1.

Many of the things u talk about have a lot 2 do with sociology. I feel that studying society can help us understand why we do, believe and act in ways that seem natural and normal to us. Ex-PH:breaks traditional roles of femininity. Traditionally, in our society women are expected act and speak in certain ways

[SladeMcGowan]

@SladeMcGowan The emotional damage done to me all those years ago has forever impacted my outlook. As a result, I struggle with self-worth issues and an inferiority complex. Anytime anyone says anything good about me, I struggle to believe it because for so many years, the opposite of me was said. I almost compare it to brainwashing in the sense that if you are told everyday that you are ugly, fat, and worthless, you tend to believe all of that, and it's hard to believe that you are important

[SladeMcGowan]

I was bullied a lot when I was in high school. There was not a single day that went by that elephant sounds were not made as I walked by certain people. The more I tried to get people to stop, the harder they tried to destroy me. If I ignored them, they always found new ways to attack me. I have always had a weight problem, due to a hormonal condition called PCOS, and even now at nearly 28 I still struggle.

[GooGoo32]

I totally agree with the concept that you're talking about. I actually started to dislike Hilton after seeing her comments in a candid video tape saying "nigger". Also, she's played the role of a ditz for quite some time so why be saddened when that is what people think of you?

Thanks for the book recommendation. Check out A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. I loved that book.

[samantham111]

this made me put certain things into perspective. I have my group of friends and people who love me for me and they laugh when i do weird things and i love making people laugh but before when new people came into the picture i held back because I was afraid someone would think I'm annoying but lately I've been acting like myself and it seems like more people get along and laugh with me when i am my crazy self. This video just helped me be more sure of myself! so thank you :)

[embracinmyself]

I loved the Zahir

[donttsstop]

when you said you were i bully it made me like you less.

i don't mean to judge you cuz of something like that, i know you've changed and you probably wouldn't do it again.. but i was bullied for years when i was a kid, so i just have it in me to dislike anyone who's done to someone what those people did to me.

i like hearing you talk though, i find you really interesting..