Help...

We went to therapy today for the first time in a month. Our therapist had a bit of a bomb to drop on us... any advice appreciated.

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• DID
• Dissociative
• Identity
• Disorder
• alters
• leaving

[smokeldogg]

Maybe the crowded parts should all stay and you should leave.

[castorgirl]

@smokeldogg no one left. Well, I left that clinical psychologist, as I didn't agree with their methods or techniques.

Take care,

CG

[wingsong1]

I was a "Sophie". I'm now 62. I've had a life of sorrow. I should have left way early on, but felt I HAD to protect - just not protect myself. I helped the torture go on and on and on, but couldn't leave. What is "love"?

[castorgirl]

@wingsong1 I'm sorry you've also struggled, and are struggling.

I wish I knew what love is.

Take care,

Sophie

[thepeoplearecrazy101]

if you chose... how did you? i am in a similar situation but or core, dionne, is only 15 years of age. they want x or pleaser to leave but we cant just ask some one to go. it should betheir choise to go dormant, right? can you help us?

[castorgirl]

@thepeoplearecrazy101, no we didn't chose who should leave. In our case we decided to change therapists. Without knowing all of the issues involved I wouldn't want to offer any advice beyond getting all the information you need to make a decision that is right for you and your system. You can always ask for a second opinion or ask why they are suggesting that this happen. If this is not something you are all comfortable with, I don't know how it could happen. It has to be something you want.

[kashmirpage]

It would seem more logical to see if you can get everyone to work together rather than asking someone to leave. I commend you for changing therapists.

[wingsong1]

Sophie ~ what I am learning is to take care of myself, how to love myself, be MY best friend. How do I do that? Inner messages to me. I am my best advocate or my worst enemy. I am really okay. I just need to remember that. I grew up in a Christian church, but found too much hypocrisy in the organization. I remain a "believer" but only within my own heart. I know that God loves us even when it doesn't feel like it. I have been helped so many times I know this is so. Whatever it takes to protect.

[skittles835]

I think all your parts are helpful and serve a purpose and have different talents and ways of expressing things. I think perhaps they should just all learn to work together and that is just my opinion. I have parts and believe me they wouldn't be happy if one of them was asked to leave and may make the chaos even worse and more destructive. I hope everything works out for you.

[narutosgirl565]

@theroyalus yea