The truth about being "emotionally unavailable"

A veteran trauma-recovery therapist proposes that people who are "insensitive," "uncaring," "over-intellectual," "unemapthic", and "unable to love," are survivors of early-childhood trauma - parental neglect, abuse, and abandonment. These symptoms suggest the person bears six psychological wounds which prevent them from feeling and exchanging compassion, empathy, and love. The video offers links to wound-recovery videos and these related Web articles:

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/bonding.htm and

http://sfhelp.org/relate/gwc.htm

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• Grown Wounded Child
• GWC
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• guilt
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• Peter Gerlach

[MrKiko1920]

thank you so much for this video!!!. I can now say its not my fault that im the way i am!!!!

[gercacn]

You're welcome! The paradox is thatt NO ONE is at fault for the ancestral unawareness and ignorance that cause unintended psychological wounding of young kids. I encourage you to patiently study and apply "Lesson 1" to improve the quality of your life - sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm.

[purity4all]

Oh by the way this man has tons of what I consider to be acquaintances, but for some reason he thinks they're his friends. He is definitely not overly intellectual, in fact he doesn't try to intellectualize anything at all. He actually believe that some things just happen and don't have a cause. I on the other hand think NOTHING can happen without a cause. Pleas pm my inbox, I really need help.

[gercacn]

If you are with a man like this (a) check yourself for psychological wounds ( sfhelp.org/gwc/assess,htm ) and (b) see these options for relating to him: { sfhekp.org/relate/gwc.htm )

[purity4all]

What about men who start out very loving and empathetic, then after a few years become completely emotionally unavailable? Men who don't seem to care no matter how much their wife is hurting weather it be physical or emotional pain? What is the reason for that and how can it be fixed?

[gercacn]

Psychologically-wounded people can be controlled by one set of subselves during couretship and another set after commitmenty, causi9ng "two personalities." The wounds can block healthy empathy and bonding unless the host person hits true bottom, and commits to wound reduction as described here: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm

[damonthemoney93]

This video really hit home for me - thanks for these.

[friskytraveller]

I like that you remind people to have compassion for people who may not be that likable, but who are actually hurting.

[Denalynnnful]

I would also call that a failure to actually communicate with the outside world if a person sits in their home and never leaves to do anything they would basically not have a life it's a sad thing they think people are out to get them or harm them when in reality it's them that is the one with the issue,and takes it out on the rest of the world,the term narcissistic applies,xo

[gercacn]

Thanks for your feedback. These psychological wounds and their personal and social impacts ARE tragic - and avoidale!!