Top-10 Actions to Break Co-Dependency - Part 2

Listen as Tom Joseph continues the discussion on the Top-10 actions to break the cycle of co-dependency.

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• Christian
• counseling
• ministry
• relationships
• love
• marriage
• divorce
• co-dependency

[jsonaike]

Thank you so much. You are a God sent! I am gaining so much freedom and empowerment through you're series. Please continue doing what you do. It really matters and helps people like me who have struggled with such behaviors their whole life!

[AtTheWellMinistries]

@jsonaike

Thank you for the compliments. Many people have felt trapped and powerless until they came to the realization of codependent behavior.

[SnommeK]

Does codependency just cease or can it be suppressed? I was definitely showing signs of codependency all my life (20 years old) due to life events. Under the course of a year, I found a really nurturing family in my church that has gone through many of the issues I had. I study up on the issue. Anyways, It's only been under a year and I feel as if I am not like that anymore. Are there certain times when codependency can show up? Or can it be ended abruptly given the right circumstances?

[AtTheWellMinistries]

@SnommeK

Codependency doesn't just abruptly go away, although many times a young person like yourself begins to grow up and realize that you can make decisions on your own without feeling shameful and guilty from an adult, then it appears to have gone away. True codependency really shows when you are not able to stop poor relationships because you need their love and approval more then they want yours.

[bencekalmar2]

Very precise, just what I needed thanks.

[AtTheWellMinistries]

@BabyBeaverShizu Thank you for comment.

[angrybear86]

Most to the point speaker on CoDp I've listened to. thank you very much.

[AtTheWellMinistries]

@bluearachnid

Yes, too many of us are taught that rescuing saving and fixing another person, along with having an intimate relationship is actually good and Christ like. That is the furthest thing from the truth.

You can counsel with myself via Skype. Call or email for details.

[AtTheWellMinistries]

@kweerb8 If your only 17, you are light years ahead of most adults by addressing these issues now. It is so refreshing to hear a young man like yourself concerned about identifying unhealthy behavior.

Some young ladies feel like they have to create elaborate "victim" stories in order to get a guy to feel sorry for them, and if she is telling the truth, then thank the Lord she has some years to correct them. Both behaviors are not healthy. Do not just let it "fly", you pay dearly later.

[kweerb8]

@AtTheWellMinistries thank you sincerely for the quick response. its not a very serious relationship, its only been a month and a half. I'm 17 and shes younger so marriage is not on the table, but i just don't know how to tell her that she needs to see a shrink. If she is lying about these things, which i do NOT think she is, is this a whole different set of issues or is it all pretty much the same stuff? And If i just let it all fly does that make ME co dependent? I can't thank you enough sir.

[AtTheWellMinistries]

@kweerb8 If your girlfriend is showing all these signs you are describing, and truly had experienced the abuse from the past you have mentioned, it would be a grave mistake to build an intimate relationship with her or marry her until she had gotten extensive long term counseling. Also you should question your intentions and your emotional state if you are not able to let her go and encourage her to get professional help before getting more seriously involved.

[AtTheWellMinistries]

@lizmcdonald77

All those who want control without earning it through love will use manipulation to cause the other person to serve them via guilt and sham. Using scripture is a great way of doing that.