My take and feelings on Single Black Mothers

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[takethat2thebank]

it is almost impossible to date if you are a single mother (in my eye's)...#1) my child takes up the majority of my time, giving me one or two days out of a week or two in order to even go on one date, one date...which makes it almost impossible to hold a man's attention and give him the time/affection he wants/needs...#2) i dont want my son to see me dating different men which means i would have to be in a serious committed relationship, which isnt possble because i dont have the time for that

[pinkkelephant]

so have u given up on dating or just feel that it is something you cant do?

[takethat2thebank]

i feel like i can't seriously date someone right now...i can go on frivolous dates evry now and then, but i dont feel it is possible to get serious with anyone...im always at home with my son and i refuse to let him see a man/men come into or home and court me, that is dead wrong in my eyes

[pinkkelephant]

will that change when your son gets older?

[takethat2thebank]

i don't know...it would probably be nice to have someone to love romantically, but for some strange reason i just see myself being alone...once he gets older i might be so stuck in my ways that it would be difficult to bring another person into the equation...i guess only time will tell

[pinkkelephant]

i guess so. you just have to make sure that you deal with family oriented men and not just men who seem like good people.

[BruhMan09]

Why is it so WRONG for a black man to say he doesn't want to date a single mom? I guess it's okay for a black women to say she doesn't want to date a nice guy or a brotha with a small @@@@. Can you say Double Standards!!!

[nerdon3rd]

I'm not saying all you single moms are bad just like all BW who aren't are not cool. However it irks me that as a Black male nerd since I'll be put in the backburner till probably my 30s .I think a woman having her first child with a v guy is a fucking honor. I don't want to be the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th baby daddy. That sucks. In the words of Ricky Bobby "if you not 1st than you're last".

[JoJoKitty1]

I would like to know why aren't you applying this to single mothers in general and why only black single mothers? I think you are stereotyping a lot of us out here and even though your tone is calm its not how u say things at times it's what you are saying. We even have racist people on here applauding you for this smh. Thumbs down

[capnhands]

dating single moms is like ordering a steak at a diner thats been half eaten

[laurenoliver23]

I don't date men with kids and I don't blame men for not wanting to date women with kids.

[carmelgoddess612]

It is exactly this kinde of thinking why I give up on black men since I am a single mother. If this is how they feel then fuck em

[dznutz1971]

@Honeygirl1234 your not a real women if you bastard breed and shit out kids and expect jimmy dumbass to pick up YOUR slack.

[nuttalexx]

i have kids and i dont like other peoples kids yes im female too

[Honeygirl1234]

stop putting down single moms. your not a real man

[candykis33]

Every1 must remember that n relationships, it is always give & take, sumtimes 1 of the mates doing more taking than they r giving. Thats where the problem arises when kids come nto the picture. Sometimes a woman's child(ren) will come b/f the man. Thats just the natural order of things. At the same time, though, a single mother must understand that man's needs must b met as well. This is the reason why expectations should be discussed at the start of the relationship, not 3 months down the line.