Dan Savage on Whether to Stop Cheating if Your Spouse Doesn't Know

They may be happy now since ignorance is bliss, but that won't always be the case.

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[emmtee03]

Can the Tech-Savvy At Risk Youth fix the audio in these vids?

[Lohitaksha]

@anneOnymous1

You're probably too young to remember but before there was stereo there was Hi-Fi, mono out of two speakers, and all headphones had only one input for both sides.

Since Dan is speaking into a single mike , it's unlikely that he is recording in stereo so it should be a simple matter of having the same input on both sides to silence the complaints.

Please

[Confusedfurry]

@emmtee03

Hehe.

[genelin1995]

Please, improve the sound quality, I can only hear from my left earphone.

[EllysaE]

@amdudar Sex is not just sex though for a lot (not all) if women (and some men). Find the person who can accept your lifestyle. Do not just do these things.

[NobodyHasThisNick]

I don't agree with not telling.

There are some people who would like to know, and make informed decision. There are people who would rather not know, and just get in happy-go-lucky denial. If it works for them, who is to judge?

For latter group, not telling makes sense. Not so for former. Not telling isn't "one size fits all" option.

[sillykatz]

@pigsrings agreed! i hate cheaters but i actually have more respect for people who only did it once felt bad will never do it again. the ones who keep going get on my nerves!

[sillykatz]

@caseyforever the gap is actually closing in, women are starting to cheat more and more now because we aren't being repressed sexually or not as much. i don't agree with cheating, i hate it, i hate cheaters mainly b/c of his point of why be in a monogamous relationship if you are not monogamous. if you want to be in an open relationship do that, but don't hurt others because you aren't monogamous!

[sillykatz]

i agree with Dan 100% i love this because its the truth. if my man cheated one time one night stand will never ever do it again feels horrible is crying i would seek counseling to make the relationship better. but if its an on going thing, he needs to go! there are people out there who are in open relationships as they should be, because why not. i'm monogamous, i need and crave it, thats my truth. but if you aren't like that then don't give into pressure to be in a monogamous relationship!

[amdudar]

Totally agree. If sex can just be sex with a hookup, and love can still be love with your partner, then I see no problem. "Nothing like a good dose of a man's mistress to make him miss his wife".

[sillykatz]

THANK YOU!!! i agree with this soo much.

[spartacandream]

I completely agree Dan, you're so right!