Adoption - An Adoptee on her Mom's Perspective

Lynne Connor, a Korean adoptee, talks about her mom's inability to acknowledge that Lynne was Korean.

Category:

Film & Animation

Tags:

• adoption
• documentary
• film
• korea
• china
• race
• family
• parents

[VinnyCons]

I think when you ignore your loved one's ethnicity, you're saying "What you are isn't good enough for me and I can't handle that." Sweeping differences under a rug and pretending they don't exist is immature and hurtful.

[cloudhidden]

@FlyingMimi It's not just about knowing where the child comes from, but how his/her race influences where she is.

[FreedomOfTheUSA]

Asians are ugly.

[jetrpg22]

I posted two definitions of ethnicity . By both of them you can argue she is not Korean or that she is. These these are not black and white, Koreans are not Koreans many of them are more Chinese or Mongolian . Yet would never think that for a day of their lives, becuase they don't have that information. In that way they are Korean and not other ancestral groups.

See, its how a person self identifies, not so much about the reality of the situation.

[GNDcherryblossom]

@sheepo78

Wow the difference between American and Korean is much bigger than that between Chinese and Korean.

[The3rdHiltonSister]

urghhh...asians are just fucking ugly. this hoe needs to eat a dog and call it a day....no one cares!!!! Why am I watching this shit how did I get from a Britney video to this shit.....fuck youtube for allowing these salon owners to put up videos.....arrrhhh America sucks for this.

[sandinyourshoes]

We should not be surprised that Lynne struggled with issues of racial identity. I really was not her fault, either. If her adoptive mom was white, then I am not stunned that she felt white growing up. Why not? Each one of us can choose how she wishes to see herself. Culture is not just reflected in how one looks. It is in the heart, too.

I cannot blame Lynne for being in tears at the end. Who wouldn't wish to be truly loved and accepted? That is an amazing feeling and good for anyone.

[tubedude101]

thats correct you koreans difinately look white hahaha

[sheepo78]

I'm korean adopted into a chinese family. I was raise chinese. I have found no problems with the culture differences nor have I ever really thought about the fact that I had missed out on another culture. Jst being "Asian" made it okay for me to be assimilated into another asian culture. It wasn't pointed out that I was out of place or something was missing... interesting

[A86]

@FlyingMimi - I don't think your conviction is wrong. If you adopt a child of another so-called "race" it is important to raise the child so that they're aware of their heritage. Not because "race" is so important but because, whether we like it or not, at this point in the evolution of human society a lot of people do treat or relate to you different based on your "race". If a transracial adoptee isn't aware they're a different "race" than their parents society will damn sure rub it in.

[bubbles02010]

i think her mother accepted that her daughter was asian (idk), but what she was mainly trying to accomplish was that it doesn't matter what her daughter looked like. she was her daughter and she loved her

[MrHasnodong]

lol this is going to happen to my neighbor he's an adopted chinese baby