As a Single Mom Will I Ever Find Love?

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[NYDASH28]

First off as a man a bm who have worked very hard to achieve many of the things i now have today n by the grace of god, i've been married to a bw at 26 n divorced at 30.no kids, why, she was so focused on her career, i provided, i sacrificed and what did i get in the end? now here u come, probably had a baby by a loser, in so call search for real love, i don't want to be n instant daddy, bw treat good bm like scum to then have us clean your plate filled with mess, whatever keep looking.

[lovein30days]

@NYDASH28 Wow, boo! I am sorry for your pain and experience with you ex but this is not the way all BW or women are. Many women like myself were MARRIED with kids and the relationship did not work out. I am so happy that I got my "nice guy" who loved and accepted my kids and although you may not consider a single mother, there are plenty of great guys who are falling in love with great women with kids and being blessed b/c of it:)

[NYDASH28]

@lovein30days well good for u but please do not try to make it out to be in an abundance because its not, just consider your self lucky. n by the way, who wears the pants, u or him?

[lovein30days]

@NYDASH28 Well actually my dear, you should not impose YOUR experience false reality on the hearts of many because they are not fact! I know at least 20 women off the top of my head who were single mothers before they married their husbands. I also interviewed over 100 of them and lets not forget many in Hollywood (ie Vanessa Williams, Demi Moore, Kirt Franklin and many others). The point is that there are men and women who do married single parents in a heart beat and feel blessed as a result.

[NerdMentality101]

@NYDASH28 I agree with you hands down. I see that all the time...female end up with loser...has baby with loser.....loser leaves or they don't want anything to do with each other....then she searches the world looking for "real love" lmao. She needed to be looking for "real love" when she was single and didn't have kids...but instead she went with losers.

@lovein30days, there are tons of great single black mothers out there, don't get me wrong. But a lot just make bad decisions.

[lovein30days]

@NerdMentality101 Sweetheart we all make bad decisions at one point or another, the difference is that when it comes to women who most times never learned how to choose correctly, it is held against them. One bad choice does not exclude them from love and not everyone's story is the same.

[middletech]

You decided to have a child with out a father and with out a marriage. The kid is more likely to be on probation than graduate high school. They are more likely to be an alcoholic. They are more likely to be a victim of violent crime. And none of this matters to you. You wanted to play mommy and you do not care about what is best for the children. Do you deserve love or happiness? You do not. Live with it.

[RuggedBrotha]

I love kids.... Search Youtube "Jethromius Project". I had to Adopt a Black Child.. Im not married either. The system is so inundated and fulla black kids, the state has somewhat relaxed their standards.

Shes 8 now... Ive had her since she was 3mos. My little Princess..

[YksiSuomalainen]

The other advice was good, but your wrong in one thing: men don't go for confidence (like women do) we go for looks. Look the best you possibly can and finding a man will get a LOT easier.

[LukeReed627]

Positivity is a good thing, but there needs to be a reality check. Your child IS a gift - to YOU, the average single male is not going to see it that way.

[Spadadiforza]

Love = a license for women to pillage your wealth.

[donwilli]

Not for nothing, but I didn't hear anything about what a single mother would be able to offer someone she' dating. I fully understand that if you're gonna date a man he should be good to have around the kids, but exactly what benefit does the man get out of the situation? Because her already having children isn't an asset, unless the guy she dealing doesn't want children of his own.

[ancel1961]

Did you read my comment or did you respond to what you thought I had written

Once again I'll repeat what I said the first time

"Once a child is born, the parents need to put their own wants on hold and do what's best for the child"

If the parents put their individual wants aside, there would be no such thing as They can't get along, verbal abuse or cheating

Parents need to get away from the "Me, me, me" type of thinking once a child is born

Singles can think that way... Parents shouldn't

[RaeRae914]

OMG you are so smart and pretty ,,love it xxxxx

[anarosydennis]

@ancel1961 Sometimes perents living in the same household can't get along and it turns into disrespectful fighting...verbal/physical abuse. This is not healthier for the child. Or maybe one of them is cheating. This does not set a good example for the child. There are so many situations in which a child would be better off with parents who are split but happy.

[anarosydennis]

@guitarandukuleleplay SIngle is the only way?...Talk about a closed heart and a closed mind.

[DeadSleepers]

@guitarandukuleleplay They pick Mr nice guy because they have the career and a good quality life. They are nothing more than a meal ticket for her and her kid(s). Then a lot of them wanna call us immature or that we are not "real men" for not choosing them. Just one of the reasons why overseas dating is on the rise here in the US.