Incest Family Systems Destroy The Victim Many Times Over

Birds were my passion when the family descended on me, birds and flowers of Orleans County, NY. They became my passion when I needed a crutch in January, 2009. I had failed it seemed in keeping a promise to my grandson to come home to Carolina soon. I had risked everything, and lost.

It was to be my second New York State winter in 30 years. How would I survive it? I had backed off promoting my memoir, Entombed in Silence, discouraged, war weary, and filled with doubts. I wrote it for the family. It failed to hit it's mark. Now I was broke too, the book I had begun research on barely an etching in the sand.

I stared at the deepening snowdrifts closing me in and the tiny black and white birds skipping about from bush to tree limb to feeder snow and wind in their feathers.
"How would they survive?" I asked. But of course they were born for that climate. I had been in the south for many years. Looking at the snow made me shiver.

As simple as the question was, and the answer, the birds sparked curiosity and new hobby, photography. Thanks to digital cameras I soon had 10's of thousand bird pictures from Blue Jays to Chickadees, Mourning Doves and the ever popular Cardinals.

My sister and I bird watched and researched and marveled at the many poses and facial expressions that lit my computer screen. And we laughed.

With the birds came a new beginning, an adventure, and a way to put a final chapter to the past and move on. But after months of work and the book nearing completion war began over a show 20/20 was doing on "Sisters Reuniting" and though the family says I started the war, I did not. I wanted my sister Valerie back in my life. It seemed like a good idea, and I thought at least I might get credit for making an effort.

As it turned out the incest family system felt obliged to respond by banding together to silence me.
Lies, rumors, innuendos, crap. The mob grew bigger, meaner, and totally righteous in their chosen path. They brought in the law, made false accusations, and tried to have me run out of town.

During the very week I had hoped to reunite with my sister, DeGolier reunion week, Valerie died of ovarian cancer. The family hardly stopped to say good-bye, but went on marching against me.

I will write more when I post the flowers. This is a small portion of the birds I have collected on my computer. But even they could not ward off the disaster that befell my sister and I. I still wonder why but it does not matter. The family cannot see who I am because they dare not look. If they look now, it will not matter. They are dead to me.

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• incest
• incest family systems
• rigid family rules
• sexual assault
• Janeen DeGolier Noetling
• speak out
• blue jays
• blue birds
• cardinals
• chickadees
• flicker woodpecker
• snowbird
• mourning dove

[lmollot]

just beautiful- you are very kind to share this pleasure with us-how are you doing these days?