Disciplining Your Child, Spanking vs Timeouts.mov

One of the hardest jobs parents have is finding effective and positive ways to discipline their children. In the past, spanking and yelling had been common ways that parents handled discipline. This has become a very sensitive issue and parents need alternatives.

Redirection of a child's attention as an alternative to spanking or yelling. If you or your child can come up with ideas or alternatives to deal with what's going on, that might help. By having a child come up with alternative solutions to the problem, it helps them to stop and refocus and get them thinking on a different track, rather than on a one track goal.

Parents are truly the role-models for their children, it's important to show them the right way to act and re-act. Anytime we do anything with our children, we are suggesting to them a way that they could behave themselves. So when we praise them, we are teaching them how to praise others. When we listen to them we are teaching them how to listen to others. When we meet their needs, we're teaching them how to meet other people's needs. When we spank them, we're teaching them how to be aggressive. So we need to be cognizant, aware anytime we do any discipline technique, is it appropriate, does it work, does it meet my child's needs and what am I teaching my child? For more information please visit www.parentingtoday.tv

If re-direction and modeling good behavior don't work, you may want to consider time-outs. Professionals recommend about one minute for each year of a child's age as the appropriate time period for a timeout. Generally, a child will be sent to their room for a timeout, they are left along for the duration of the time out, this will give them an opportunity to think about their transgression. After the timeout they're ready to listen and talk.

It's never too late to stop punishing and using other techniques, keeping in mind when you switch gears..at first it will take your children a little bit to notice.

It's key to remember when working with any children-as adults we are their teachers and their mentors and we're there to coach them and guide them and that whatever we choose to communicate to them is going to impact their own self esteem.

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[raddada100]

@shiftEasterIsland i don't wish to be difficult, but the way you deliver your statements can sometimes come off as arrogant and rude. I do know what you're saying but i am just saying you could've said them in a better manner.

[gorillas400]

@floydshnagle you made jon's almost-good-point sound stupid -_-

[gorillas400]

@Jon12213 also do you realize how much the ban of spanking would cut down on child abuse? most parents arent trying to abuse.

[gorillas400]

@Jon12213 your extremly reasonable for sombody who agrees with spanking, however your logic is a bit off, first of all children fight out of anger, and they do not lack the ability to comunicate on a sophisticated level, its just plain stupid to compare this to puppies playing, and your original comment sounds like a joke, im nit even going to go into that, and you say you were spanked from 5-13? 5 is already too old

[raddada100]

ok i have been hit as a child but not often. nonetheless my parents tell me what i did wrong and i understand and learn never to do it again. children's minds are full of short circuits and if they are told they cannot do something (without any explanation from their parents at all) they throw tantrums. thats what we need to remember.

[drumworkshop100]

Lol I remember I got hit with a belt x) but hell it put me in my place

[shiftEasterIsland]

@floydshnagle My kids always respond right when I'm calm and nice to them but if someone like a baby sitter were to harm them then they wouldn't behave

[StopTheAbuse123]

Seriously. Anyone who says 'spank kids out of love' are obviously screwed up in the head. Parents do not love their children if they purposely harm them. Hurting your child teaches them not to do something because they will be physically hurt and embarrassed if they do it, not because it is wrong. And to say it brings kids and parents close together? Yea right, kids who are spanked do not want to trust their parents and confide in then or tell them things because they never know if what they sa

[Jon12213]

@floydshnagle yeah i notice that... I'm not sure why people like to equate spanking with round housing your kid. Its a couple slaps to their rear that only hurt for a minute, when they are out of control. Used correctly, parents should still be telling their children why they were spanked and what is good and bad.

[floydshnagle]

@shiftEasterIsland You are right? Based on what facts?