What it means to be "psychologically wounded."

A summary of the common effects of the psychological "wounds" (and unawareness) that stress most people, relationships, and families. The key meanings are (a) wounding your kids and probable divorce, and (2) significant stress, illness, and premature death. Self-study Lesson 1 in the nonprofit "Break the Cycle!" Web site gives more detail, and shows how to reduce these wounds. The Lesson-1 study guide is at http://sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm

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[SambucaLovesCaz]

Just to be validated is enormous. I'll never get it from my parents and the abusers, but to get it from someone as experienced as you is wonderful.I broke the cycle by having a very (also wounded) loving grandma, and I adore my nine children,and constantly hug and kiss and tell them how lovely they are. My nice grandma taught me this.She's the only person I ever felt loved me and I spent her last week with her and she died in my arms. I owed her that much.She was lovely.But my pain continues!?!

[gercacn]

Sambuca - to reduce your pain over time, and to grieve your loss/es well, work patiently at online lesson 1: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm. Questions = welcome. - P

[bloominwild7]

I knew it!! But it's nice to hear someone say it. For the longest time I wondered why I pick such wounded people to be in relationships with when I'm completely "normal". This makes me feel some comfort that this can change when I deal with all I've buried. A couple months ago I heard that if you attract crazy people it's because something is crazy about you. I remember feeling offended by that. I have in been in such denial. Thank you for these videos!!

Love,

Sarah

[gercacn]

Your welcome,Sarah. For insight anjd healing, invest trimre in online "lesson1" at sfhelp.org/gwc/guid1.htm It's free.

[gercacn]

Review your rights as a dignified person. Then get clear on your boundary, design a consequence, and assert your boundary and consequence firmly and respectfully. See sfhelp.org/cx/skills/assert.ht­m. 

[Viva la vida]

You are so awesome!

[TheRedtaz]

hi pete, i had a problem with a co-worker. the problem was he wasn't giving me any space. i told him nicely that i just want my lunch break by myself. he listened the 1st day, but he did it again, and i told him not to take it personal, but i need my lunch hour for myself, and then we can hang out, just give me an hour, well he did it again, and i got nasty with him, and now we don't talk. i know he is wounded because his father got murdered when he was young. i feel bad, what would you do?

[USAinFinland]

Thanks, Pete. Your words are gold.

[gercacn]

In my experience, "Normal" is psychologically-wounded and unaware. If you have any questions about "Lesson 1" (trauma assessment and wound-reduction). please ask. I cheer you on!

[zabelicious]

I thought I was fairly "normal" but it would appear that it might not be the case. I am studying to be a counselor mostly because most of my friends diagnosed with trauma disorders say I help them a lot and look up to me for advice. I have a BSc in Psychology as well so I understand the organic vs non-organic part. Guess I will be taking that free on-line seminar! Thank you very much for your contribution to the field. This ties up nicely with the attachment theory.