TTC Video #6: Dealing with Negative/Unwanted Comments

I care very much about women TTC and dealing with infertility and it's hard when someone unintentionally says something that frustrates us. It's not their fault... I'm just speaking out of the frustration of telling them over and over: "It's not all in my head, I have a medical problem that's getting treated."

We've all dealt with this at one time or another. I have to deal with this one comment/advice almost everyday.

Maybe in this video, I sound a tad bit bitter but today my lovely friend was giving me advice on the best way to get pregnant... "You need to stop thinking about it. Then you'll get pregnant. You're not getting pregnant because you keep thinking about it" She said this all this while holding her newborn girl in her arms. Mind you, she got pregnant within two months of getting married. And she knew how long I've been trying.

I love her, and I know she meant the best, but those who haven't dealt with infertility don't really know that some of the comments or words of advice do not sit well with ladies dealing with infertility.

However, sometimes we need to take a deep breath and explain ourselves. At times, we get to the point where we just get fed up. I had to vent a little bit because I've gotten the same comment/words of advice at least four times this week. Even from complete strangers. So I apologize for my rambling and maybe just saying whatever comes out of my mouth.

Love you Ladies and Loads of Baby Dust!!!

DISCLAIMER:
I'm not a doctor or medical professional. Please consult your doctor if you have any concerns and before taking any medication.

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[pandasbabydreams]

@dansgirl21 The human body is a mysterious thing. If you can, see a reproductive endocrinologist. There can be a lot going on hormonally. And I'm sorry you're dealing with people's negativity, they just don't understand. That's one of the hardest things about infertility.

[LilBaybeeMinx]

The only people that know about my pcos is my partner, my parents, my sister-in-law and brother-in-law and my partners parents now know. and the only reason my partners parents wernt told until now is because their nefews wife has pcos and i have heard the comments and i dont want thoses things said to me or about me. the worse comment i heard from them was that their nefew was forced to marry someone that cant have children.

[pandasbabydreams]

@LilBaybeeMinx I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm the same way, very little people in my life know about our fertility problems. Few family and friends. Dealing with negative comments makes me keep quiet sometimes.

[msgennyparker]

PREACH IT!!!!!! I hv heard em all too!!! (tears) I even had a coworker say that ppl with no children are selfish!!! This witch doesn't know my situation and to judge me was very hurtful. I even have older men asking me, "Do u even like kids?" I be like wow!!!! All the rude comments are from ignorance. I've tried since 19 and im 33 now. I even had an Aunt tell me im to old to try to hv kids. But GOD will be the one to decide that.

[pandasbabydreams]

@msgennyparker I know :( It's really hard to deal with people at times and whenever we try to explain things to them, they get mad at us.

[mgn0511]

I know how you feel. I think the thing that gets me the worst is when people say "oh it will happen when it's meant to happen". Uhg...... I hate hearing that, especially when you see all these teen moms or woman who seem like their children are a burden. As if they deserve children more than I do as if they were meant to have children when they did and not me.

[pandasbabydreams]

@mgn0511 It is really frustrating at times, I usually don't tell my friends too much because that's like the first thing they say to me too.

[dansgirl21]

Hey first of all I want to say thank you for making these videos! I have been dealing with PCOS since I was 14 and I'm now 21. My fiance and I have been TTC for over 3 years and I absolutely hate when people tell me to just relax and stop "trying" and it will happen... um... it doesn't work that way people! I haven't had a period naturally since i was 14 and until i was 19 the doctors just kept telling me that my body needed time to regulate itself but i knew there was something wrong.

[TryingToConceiveBaby]

I hope you don't mind, but I liked your video so much I posted it to my page on facebook: trying-to-conceive-a-babycom

[TryingToConceiveBaby]

i'm gonna shoot the next mothertrucker that tells me not to worry about it!!!!

[TTCsince07]

Yes!!! Someone who knows what I am going through.. last week I was talking to my mom on the phone and she was saying know what maybe your to stressed or trying to hard you should go on a vacation and not worry about anything or my favorite is god will give you a baby when its his time. I believe got will provide but to me she is saying wait for the right time. Nobody understands what we go though I have been trying since 2007 and its 2011 now. It fustrates me

[MrSoulSamCooke]

I'm young still in school

My situation isn't about child birth,

This video was very enlighting though.

I'm always running into steriotypes and racial limitations I don't find them they find me

Basically well essensially I'm told,

"your black so that means your ghetto and you should act like it" I wasn't raised that way it's not my charactor and I always have to break it down and explain myself and it's frustrating

[NubianRockerChick]

Thank you so much because people are pissing me the hell off !!!