Fake Dominants

www.submissiveguide.com - lunaKM talks about how to identify fake Dominants online and warning signs they typically set off.

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[requiemkitty]

Very very good, and very very important! Another red flag is when someone ends the relationship, yet even after it's ended they still try to continue Domming you and conveniently "forget" that you've entered into a relationship with someone else and you've said "i choose to honor this new relationship" and they still continue the unacceptable behavior.

[subguide]

Thank you! That's an excellent red flag to bring up.

[FrankAlbergo]

Excellent post!!! I loved it. See you on fet.

[MasterDysires]

We must set an example not just the Dominants but also the submmissives. We are looked at as superiors, ones whom you look for guidance.. It's our responsibility to stand by that and lead, step forward and show you by our own examples.. well submissives also have the same responsibilities. When you show, guide, lead by example may that one Dominant may see that and realize that HE IS in the wrong.

If you act like a child, you will be treated like one!!!

[MasterDysires]

If a Dom insists to dominate/control you... would you curse him out? Lash out, be disrespectful? Or would you be the more mature adult, and tell him to leave you along, signal a friend to call the police and press charges.

[MasterDysires]

With submissives lashing out/being disrespectful when one tries to control/dominate you. Also a easy solution. Be respectful.. decline their advances. This is a adult lifestyle, act like an adult, use common sense and logic. We are fully aware that the laws are there to protect us no matter what we've to live and how to live.

[MasterDysires]

With wanting to control other submissive/slaves that do not belong to you.. it's simple to understand and take proper action. Treat other the way you'd like to be treated. Respect and get respect. Would you tell someone else wife what to do? o you wouldn't so use the same concept when interacting with another that doesn't belong to you.

[MasterDysires]

I've read many of the posts here and there are many views. We all know red flags aren't all what they are. One sub may look at a Dom and see a red flag yet to a different sub, that same red flag isn't one.

[GreenRad2012]

~Excellent insights here. Thank you so much for posting this.. should be "required viewing" for anyone considering submission. :>

[Chasatani]

I do apologize for hijacking the comments, but this just came to mind. The way to spot a poor/fake sub would normally be in their first attempted contact. If a sub states all the things they want a Dom to do to them i.e. "I want you to spank me, whip me, chain me up and do terrible things to me." Or "I will let you do X to me any time you like." For a Dom that is a very poor opener. Doms/Masters want to know what a sub is willing to do FOR THEM. Punishment is not top priority.

[Chasatani]

Continuing: Some subs are trained or more enjoyed as sluts or brats. It is frowned upon, but there are Doms that like it. Others might also try to push back to see what a person whom claims to be a Dom might do. Your personal idea of what you want in a sub does not mean that the ones that are not in your realm are not subs.

[Chasatani]

@royalloyal123 If you are not my Dom then I will not treat you as if you are. You seem to have it that a sub is a person that is constantly sub in life and personality. This is not so for a LOT of subs. We will talk back, we will lash out. If you try to dominate us when you have no cause to then expect these types of behavior. The internet has caused a lot of subs to grow wary of bad Doms and we act that way to ward off any fakers. One does not have to act like a lady to be a sub.