Not A Virgin

Santa: "Ho, ho, ho! What would you like for Christmas, little girl?"
Zach: "I want an Xbox, a pony, and a virginity!"
Santa: "Little girls don't play Xbox. I'll bring you a pretty pony!"
Zach: "What about a virginity?"
Santa: "I can't get you a virginity. Virginity isn't a thing."
Zach: "If it's not a thing, then how can I lose it? How I can protect something that isn't a thing? And if I grow up to be a woman, how can something that doesn't actually exist be used to shame me and control my body?"
Santa: "Well..."
Zach: "And if I grow up to be a man, how can I receive pressure to lose my virginity to a woman if neither of us really has a virginity!?"
Santa: "Well you see..."
Zach: "Santa, your lap is my least favorite ideological state apparatus. I want ice cream!"

Lyrics:
I made it through the awfulness
Somehow I made it through
Didn't know how fucked up it was
Until I fucked you

I was made to feel
Incomplete
Like sex could make
A piece of me go missing

But you made me think
Yeah you made me think
What can sex really do?

I'm not a virgin
Because virginity isn't even real
Not a virgin
It's just a heteropatriarchal construct
Designed to police how you feel

Gonna get all your consent, love
And give all mine too
There's no reason to "save" our bodies
By denying what we want to do

We won't lose
If we choose
That something new
I want to do with you

Our bodies are our own
Our bodies are our own
And that's always true

I'm not a virgin
Virginity is pretty much arbitrary
Not a virgin
It gets used to justify violence
And that's really scary

Yeah that's really scary
Violence is the worst
Really, really bad

We won't lose
If we choose
That something new
I want to do with you

It doesn't need ending
And it doesn't need defending
Virginity isn't even a thing

We're not virgins
There's no virginity to steal
We're not virgins
It creates a hierarchy of sex acts
Where only the top one is "real"

We're not virgins
Oh, we're not virgins
It feels so fine to say
Virginity
Is such bullshit
Oh yeah, we're not virgins
Oh oh oh, we're not virgins

Category:

Music

Tags:

• consent
• disidentification
• pop
• virginity
• madonna

[paulievenna]

every single one of your songs make me happier about being alive. the whole world needs to hear them.

[RemedialBossfight]

I went through a few years in my teens where I felt like my identity as a bisexual would never be accepted as long as I was a virgin. I... think that might be *why* I sought out my first sexual partner, and that was NOT a good idea.

So thanks for that little bit in the Santa thing against being pressured to "lose" your virginity. And, of course, the "we're not virgins" thing would also have been applicable to younger-me. I hope some high school kids find your work. ^_^

[MarlieMewy]

All the awards

[sheldonmosbeck]

Your music reminds me of early Mountain Goats.

[Have0ne0nMe]

Thank you so much for sharing yourself with all of us. You make us feel brave and not alone.

[shahoney]

This is going to my favorite!

[ragemydarlingrage]

this is awesome

[sacredrealm]

I agree with the words so much and its rar to find anyone who thinks this way. There is no virginity to loose, unless you believe it and decide to feel that. In which case its still only in the mind. I don't see how "sex", a natural drive could change anything about you that you don't want to, or make you "lose" anything. To me tere would be no difference between "1st time" (whatever even counts as that), and 90th time sex hah. If virginity existed why doesn't masterbation count anyway?

[tupcho33]

wtf how do I get here????



[onedaysoon111]

Thank you for this.

[shmiggen]

He may not be a virgin, but he is definitely a mangina.

[Moisesito366]

How do you know if your a virgin