How To Deal With People Who Like To Start Arguments

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Some people just love to argue. Since you won't always be able to avoid them, learn some techniques for defusing the argument and keeping the peace.

To complete this How-To you will need:

Understanding
Defusing techniques
Self-control
Patience
Focus
A willingness to walk away

Step 1: Understand people who like to argue

Understand that argumentative people, especially if they tend to become aggressive, have a deep-rooted personal problem. They like to argue, and they like to win -- period.

Tip: Unlike people who enjoy the mental exercise of debate, argumentative people argue because of the sense of power and control it gives them.

Step 2: Be aware and engage defusing techniques

Recognize that the person who started to argue with you may be this kind of person. Begin to employ defusing techniques.

Step 3: Don't engage in an argument with them

Don't get drawn into an argument or, if already drawn in, try to win it. You won't -- at least not without causing the argument to escalate and possibly turn nasty.

Tip: Never let an argument become personal by using words that attack the person, and never say, "You are wrong."

Step 4: Listen to them

Listen to what the person has to say and don't cut them off, which will only anger them.

Step 5: Show that you are listening and respect their view

Use words that show you respect their views and repeat their main points to show that you are listening.

Tip: Some positive phrases to use are "I believe what you are saying is...," "I understand," and "Thanks for letting me know your opinion."

Step 6: Use self-control and stay focused on the issues

Use self-control and stay focused on the issues being discussed. Don't let the person turn the discussion back into a no-win argument.

Step 7: Walk away

If this person is determined to argue, say something neutral, like, "I'll have to give this more thought," and walk away.

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[123pixieboo]

1:00 - 1:05 scared the crap out of me

[dingdongditch1000]

Creepy!!!

[fayenesse]

@aglover360 thats what the world's come to..pitiful.. you guys don't even think of trying to work it out...

[snuff091]

This actually Might help me Thanks :)

[viggoM35]

Pretty much you have to walk away and let them cool down then talk later. I have no patience for this kind of attitude. They will no longer be a friend of mine. Especially if it's a domestic argument. The girl could hit you then call the cops and then they haul the man off to jail. Thank OJ for this kind of mentality from the law.

[taman3666]

the best way to avoid from those asshole is ignore them constantly,

[aglover360]

I find that most of my arguments start because of a misunderstanding that I'm right.

[onafira]

Im not tryinng to argue, im just explaining why i am right

[survivealist]

I'm scared at 1:03

[aglover360]

Step 1) Divorce

[assassinxbanana]

WOW it would buffer at 1:00

[Blackblood254]

@AspenAblaze i ment to say my mom totaly pissess my off