She said no pre-marital Sex. How do I proceed?

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[atolliver91]

simple ...who respects who, we live in a society with out tradition...if all he want is sex then he doesn't need to marry anything, p.e. you are ranting time to tune out,on you...

[pinkkelephant]

@atolliver91

no one said this all about sex. once again, selective hearing.

[blueBlackpurple]

As a man who does not believe in pre-marital sex, I would love to find a woman who believed in waiting to get married before engaging in sexual intercourse. I may be a little old fashion, but I don't believe in men and women laying together until they are married. If more people followed that we may have less out of wed lock births, STD's, and broken hearts. Sex is not a game or a sport, and it should be treated as an expression of love between a man and wife.

[pinkkelephant]

@blueBlackpurple

I definitely here where you are coming from.

[blueBlackpurple]

PinkkElephant, have you stopped to think that because he is a decent guy she might want to make sure she does things right with him? The other guys that she had sex with were probably not guys she was looking to have a relationships with or if she was they were not looking to be in a serious relationship with her. This guy she is with now may be the person she really likes and respects, and she does not want to mess that up like she may have in the past.

[pinkkelephant]

@blueBlackpurple

If we are in a committed relationship that is clear to the both of us, sex wont mess that up. Sex outside of the mutually exclusive, beneficial and recognize relationships is what causes problems.

[chessloser28]

Yeah the good man has to wait. Screw that, she would give it up to the bad boy in a heart beat. If she is a virgin then that is a different story. If not, I would leave.

[dantej32]

@SetApartBeauty He told you not to trip because he loves you. Men and women think differently generally speaking. A woman believes that if a man has sex with another woman that he does not love her. That is not true. Because if it comes to a choice whether to sex a chick or go to the one you love, he is going to his love. When you kiss the one you love and the man gets aroused, he respected you to not to push sex with you. A man will masturbate only so much.

[SetApartBeauty]

@dantej32 Why shouldn’t she be told if she believes she’s in a relationship? You say you have needs but you would have known upfront that she was waiting until marriage so why get involved only to sex other women?

I don’t get how this concept makes sense to men. I’ve actually been in this situation and the guy knew I was waiting but thought it was ok to sex other chicks even though we were 2gether. I found out and he gave me the same reasoning you did and told me not to trip :-/

[dantej32]

@SetApartBeauty Why should she be told? As many women like to say, I don't see a ring on my finger. You want a TOTAL commitment, MARRY ME. After marriage I am you soul, mind and BODY. My body has needs. You with hold it, get it elsewhere. If there is a relationship with a plan to marry, then make love if there is a commitment

[SetApartBeauty]

@dantej32 Very interesting. So basically a commitment only begins when the marriage license is signed, but not before despite the fact that the two were in a relationship and intended to marry, right? If this is so, I'm wondering if you were in this situation, would you tell the woman that you're in a relationship with and planning to marry that you're having sex with other women? Or would you keep that information to yourself?

[dantej32]

@SetApartBeauty Sex is a Physical act. A commitment comes from the heart. After marriage she is the only one. Where is the commitment? The commitment IS marriage. 

[SetApartBeauty]

@dantej32 So you think that it's perfectly ok for a man to have sex with another woman or women, even though he's in a relationship with a woman who desires to wait until marriage? Where's the commitment? Or is it only a commitment when sex is involved?

[Odakufilms]

I would dump her.

[IwanAcleverUtubeName]

con't 2 particular man has no idea what he's looking for or what he's getting himself into. And to that I'll add for the guys, do not decided to be celibate for a woman. You just won't make it, lol. You truly have to know if both of your moral compasses are compatible. If celibacy isn't something you'd do alone, feelings for that woman is not going to be enough to carry you. You have absolutely every right to choose and not be vilified for it.

[IwanAcleverUtubeName]

Observing her life was the best advice you can give that young man. In that observation though, he should not expect perfection. As a celibate woman, I've found that in some cases men expect me to have bible verses memorized, an extensive gospel collection, and attend church everyday, as if that's what guarantees validity in my spiritual journey (big difference between being spiritual and being religious). In that cases, that makes my decision making easier because it would be obvious that 

[murozman]

@Mary2020VA Not everyone believes in the no sex before marriage thing and if you do I respect that. I personally don't. To me if I'm seeing someone and we are not having sex it's not really a romantic/sexual relationship, it's more like a friendship. It's hard for me to fall in love and view the girl in that way. I don't want a woman to be with me just because she finds me to be a good marriage prospect. I want her to desire me.