Letting Go of The Ego

Response to a message I received on here

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[mynameistoshort]

oh please, even God himself wasnt able to resist his ego and then you want us to let go of it? ego is a part of us, you can hide it or pretend that you dont have it but deep inside us ego will remain till the end of our days

[Arashau]

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[elbanydaer]

@cosmanthony21 There's a way of accepting that you are angry & not be attached to it. Covering up or or suppressing anger will only give it strength. So, notice the anger. Be aware of it. You can even say to the self, ok. anger is in me now. It can be felt. This ego feels that it has a good reason to be angry, it was assaulted. That puts you outside of those feelings as an observer, into your true self, which is your essence. Only your true nature is capable of noticing thoughts & feelings.

[alexd181]

I'm glad you looked at it from that perspective to find out what this person was looking for. If he does not get respect through anger he will be forced to find a healthier method of obtaining it. Negative behaviours like this are learned - through 'positive' re-enforcement.

Looking to the source, rather than the surface-emotion, always reveals something about ourselves and others that we were not conscious of before.

[cosmanthony21]

Yes, this is right. I mean, theres a guy a work who likes to shoot his mouth of and say stuff thats rude. I took offence before, but after talking about it I realized he was simply looking for respect and felt I was not giving it to him. Its like what you said, "someone is being hurtful they are looking for something, acknowledgment, a way to hide their fear, there is always something" What he was looking for was respect. Thanks Alex.

[alexd181]

Understanding an emotional reaction is definitely much healthier than defending yourself arbitrarily against all actions of anger, if this is what you asked.

[alexd181]

When you see the reason behind the hurtful behavior, it is usually never an attack.

If someone is being hurtful they are looking for something, acknowledgment, a way to hide their fear, there is always something. The ego perceives it as being hurtful, but it's never that simple.

It comes back to generalizing a person's actions to their whole-self. Victims of hurtful words are often as responsible as the person 'attacking' for identifying with the pain.

[cosmanthony21]

Ok, so understanding why someone has said something harmful is more healthy than what had actually been said that was hurtful. Is that right?

[alexd181]

I usually find jumping to focus on "why am I (hurtful thing said)" is the ego response.

"What is the motive this person has for saying (hurtful thing)" is a more conscious response.

Reacting to things is often a harmful approach. Can you see that you are allowing others to define your sense of power? Once you define it yourself you won't need to jump to defend it in that way.

[cosmanthony21]

Well, for example. When someone says something hurtful, it hurts. Then comes the reaction of pride to give me a sense of power when I feel powerless.