Unsolicited Advice

Liger is fine. I'm fine. My hair is fine. My wallet's fine.
My natural hair is not somebody else's natural hair.

There are some editing fails that I'm not going to fix but you get the point.

My advice:
Having a friend with natural hair does not make you an expert on natural hair, especially mine. Don't live vicariously through someone else's hair. If you feel have the key to growing hair out, stop offering it to people who already have hair (like me) and sign a deal with Rogaine, I'm not interested. If a girl does not ask you about her hair, she probably doesn't care what you think about it. She probably didn't do her hair for you to like either.

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[thisheadofmine]

Ok, I'm confused...not trying to be mean, but you seem to be contradicting yourself quite a bit. You said that no one complained about your hair but then in the other video you said people made so many negative comment about it- calling you names, etc. Then you said you've yet to see someone strong arm a person into changing their hair but in the other video you said they made the other black girls perm their hair but you just weren't going to do it. Which one should we believe?

[al00fone]

@thisheadofmine Wow... there isn't a contradiction, you just didn't pay attention. It's not up to me what you "should" believe, I'm not selling you anything.

Negative comments were made at BCT, which I mentioned in the first video. Nobody complained at OCS, which I mentioned in a video after that. The videos were about two separate experiences. And I had yet to see anyone "strong arm anyone" into changing heir hair in the regular army outside of training environment I had been in.

[gggrinz]

And just so you know, your hair is prettier than any of those relaxed bitches' hair will be! Hence the "hey your hair is so long, or you have so much!"

[gggrinz]

Thank you! Lmao this is hilarious. Like, how do they expect your hair to be longer if you relaxed it? Um, hello?! Relaxing your hair will make it look longer BUT it will break off and then cause it to get shorter or stop retaining length! Dum asses.

[RBLeggs]

This is an old video, but the content is still relevant....at least to me. I've been natural now less than a year and usually wear twists and bantu knot outs. I get called 'ghetto' so often, I don't pay attention anymore. I've even had people ask me if they can flat iron my hair for me...like I'm too lazy to do it myself OR like I want to flat iron it...which I don't. You are so right...people need to mind their own business.

[forgetyouman]

So glad you made this video. I recently went natural and I'm already getting unsolicited advice. I had been getting relaxers all my life & recently decided that it didn't seem healthy for my hair or scalp. I just don't understand why people have such a big problem with me wearing my hair the way it grows out of my head. I think lots of blk wmn r just conditioned to believe something is "wrong" w/ their natural hair. Really needed to hear this perspective. Thanx so much.

[curliefro]

Ahh.. welcome to the sisterhood of natural hair! Unsolicited advice - " You would look so pretty if ...." " Your hair would be so long if ....." " You should loc your hair" - is part of the membership. At this point I grin, SMH, and move along (can't reason with some people). 

[XxrElEAsEmExX]

ZOMG U R my inspiration... + a few other sistas. I've feared the process of going natural since last year, & now I'm brave enuff 2 actually prepare. My hair looks as good as your hair when it's straight, but lately I noticed how damaged my hair is. I can't do a thing to my own hair even after it's straightened!!

[kingdomoffspring6]

@al00fone I have a question about the army and locs. check your inbox please.