Re: Understanding and Explaining Black Women PART FOUR

My response to JuneBug Obama's Understanding and Explaining Black Women Part 4. I had a question about a statement he made which he was kind enough to answer. After hearing his take on my question I want to respectfully submit this question to you brothers out there.

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[WildL23]

I do agree that some guys are villains and go way to far with it. But it is not always with such bad intentions.

[foxye3diva3]

Thanks so much for stopping by and for your comments

[WildL23]

I don't think you can call it a cycle. A cycle is when the same thing keeps happening. Once you get grown you never get child abused again. The cycle of child abuse is over. New adult cycles begin. So men can't stop the cycle of child abuse in a woman's life because that is history. I man can not have sex until marriage but it really doesn't go back in the future and prevent that other cycle. I don't think we can equate having sex with consenting adults to any continuation of child abuse.

[foxye3diva3]

Thank you for your comment. If I said that, forgive me as it's not what I meant. I'm referring to abuse period. If I'm abused as an adult of course I can't call it child abuse. You're right sex between consenting adults is not child abuse

[WildL23]

No need to apologize, I'm not perfect either. I did not mean it like you strickly meant that, by the way.

[foxye3diva3]

No prob. Thanks for clarifying.

[mindset2008]

But I feel that that's not enough to get our girls on the right track. Of course, tell someone if you've been raped or molested. But do we have enough people standing up for them. NO! And that's where we start. Let's stand up for them. Then educate them on the after affect. Never once was I told as a child that promiscuity could be a result of rape and is a sign of an unhealthy view of men and sex. WOW!! Let's guide them while they are young and not wait 'til they're adults and then criticize.

[2pacndr]

Women use men for sex as well. It seems that women like to act like their being preyed upon or used for sex by men, but the fact of the matter is, like junebugobama eluded to, most of these women are promiscuous, cheaters and dysfunctional. I believe he said this to protect MENS FEELINGS and help them put their priorities in perspective.

[illl7775able]

Yes women have been though a lot in life, mentally, physically, emotionally and even spiritually. This is a woman's prospective, men need to alteast try to understand and have just a little compassion towards what the black woman have been through. I cant say this enough, black men need to play their role in life and in the relationship. I dont believe the black man knows "Who He Is," the black woman will submit when he knows himself. The Black Man is God in the flesh. Bottom line. Peace!!!

[bearr7]

ALL LOVE MY QUEEN

[Looneveli]

honestly male or female, we both contribute somewhat to the downfall on the other gender, as well as our own, i used to be the perfect guy, loving, caring, listening, and faithful.... all i been with was unworthy females, now im on the "dark side" as most females would call it, but so far, every female i dealt wit felt it was ok to be either a bitch or unfaithful and break my heart, but i gotta always do the right thing

[WildL23]

Also women do it also. Married women do it also. They have sex with men, some of whom have been abused, but they won't marry the man. They like the motion of the ocean, but they won't marry the guy. It's no different. So we can't just always come to a foregone conclusion to just vilify this behavior.