May 20, 2008, 1033am Phone message from my bipolar mother

My bipolar mother left me a voicemail.
May 20, 2008, 10:33am at work

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• manic
• depression
• bipolar
• disorder
• psychology

[cherylgg]

Your mother has an illness. An illness that can be inherited. What if you or one of your children end up with bipolar? Will you abandon a child the same way you abandoned your mother. What if you get ill, do you want to be abandoned and unloved. Bipolar is a physical illness, a brain illness. It is an illness like heart disease. If you get sick with bipolar, cancer or heart disease, do you want to be left alone by people who were suppose to love you. How hurtful. My heart breaks for mom.

[mybipolarmother]

If I get to the point that my mother has, I would fully expect everyone to discard me like a used kleenex. And rightly so.

If someone else becomes mentally ill, I would require that they seek effective treatment.

If one of my adult children refuses to acknowledge that their behavior is a problem, blaming everything on everyone else, I'd give them every opportunity, support & encourage them, and if they still refuse to even try to change then yes, I'd cut contact with them too.

[cherylgg]

Shame on you for cutting off all contact with your ill mother and not letting her see her grand children. Your children need to be taught about mental illness and they need to be taught love and compassion. This is not some old lady on the street we are talking about. It is your mother. You have a responsibility towards her as her adult son. She did not ask to be bipolar and maybe there are reasons (side effects) for not taking meds. Bipolar is an illness like heart disease or cancer.

[mybipolarmother]

My children ARE being taught about mental illness, and love and compassion too. Your assumption that any of the above requires contact with an insane and toxic person is really amusing.

Bipolar is not like any physical disease, and especially my mother's version, which includes dysphoria, paranoia, and narcissism.

The ONLY way to protect my kids from her is to eliminate contact.

[ikanspelle]

@SpiritedRose This is someone having a severe manic episode. Deep depression is NOT just "sleeping" and hyper mania is not always happy. Sometimes it can be paranoia and anxiety.. I'm tired of reading things like this by people who have no idea. This is why people who are bipolar are treated and regarded the way they are. When I become manic I am irrationally angry. People get mad at bipolar manics but don't actually want to help them with support. They only judge them & think they're better..

[kh909]

@mybipolarmother

My mom is bipolar too, she's worse than this actually... but I would NEVER cut off all contact with her. EVER. She's my mother, and I have respect for her. I'm ready to fight for her for the rest of my life and hers.

[tarajoworkman]

I am just recently cuting off contact with a mother just as sick...it is so hard to have your own mother say such awful things....Im glad Im not alone.

[SpiritedRose]

You know what this is not bipolar. When your bipolar your fighting deep depression(sleeping) and hyper mania (usually very hyper, creative and happy).. you don't do abusive stuff like this. Your mom must have something else wrong with her mentally.

[gangsta2027]

im so sorry.

thats how my mother in law is

and we've done the same, we

HAVE to monitor her when she's

around our baby and she's not allowed

to have my daughter in her possesion

unless me or my fiance is in the room.

it sucks man.

but i know how you feel.

[rhinojjusa]

Maaan I know what this shit is like. My moms is bipolar but she takes like a goddamn suit case of pills everyday. I dont see it helping anything. The arguments we get into are un real. People would probably think I dont love my mom at all if they heard us fight but you gotta fight fire with fire. Bi polar basket cases are no fun to live with.

[jacobloversg]

I understand what your going through. My mom is Bipolar. I am Only twelve and that sounds like something my mother would say to me on one of her manic days. Good luck and i don't think u are doing anything wrong. protective services took me away from my parents about a year ago because my mom was too dangerous so don't feel bad for protecting your kids

[tudlytops]

I'm just happy that my daughter has always been here for me and as for my hubby he will never leave me. Love makes people strong.

The stop talking to her under the excuse of protecting your children??? Bi-polar runs in families remember what you done if or when you become one, when it is you or one of your children that needs support

[skydiversmith]

i will pray for u n ur family. u c, im bi-polar and i thinkk your mom would be herself by meds maybe. helped me out alot

[zmajski777]

Oh my god...I married a bipolar woman for half a year and was managing her mood swings untill it got worse. And you are so right....if they dont acknowledge something is wrong with them it's bad and sad equally... coz you can only save your self....Plus my mother in law is a shizofrenic and she hears whatever she wants and have that mother instinct to support her child in whatever my wife's faze...I will be divorcing soon...I swear I tired everything a normal person can do....I understand you.