Effects of Divorce on Children

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Divorce affects children differently, depending on their gender, age and stage of development. Their world, their security and their stability seems to fall apart when their parents divorce. Reducing traumatic effects of divorce on children. Many children go through their parents' divorce with relatively few problems or permanent negative effects. However, for other children, the effects of divorce can be traumatic and long-lived. Changes in a child's living arrangements, time with parents, education and lifestyle can trigger the body's fight-or-flight response -- anger or fear. But when a child cannot adequately express or mentally process those emotions, the child may feel extremely powerless and "freeze." This reaction is the basis of traumatic stress. There have been many empirical studies focusing on the effects of divorce on children. Some of the common findings among all of these studies are detailed in this article. Why Children are Impacted by Divorce? Some fathers and mothers see divorce as "their" issue. "We just can't get along anymore" or "She has been unfaithful." In fact, the marital relationship has far reaching ramifications for children, extended families, friends and others. The following are some perspectives on the view of children in a divorcing family. Fear of Change. The children in a divorcing family know that nothing will ever be the same again, and their previously secure world is in a state of change. Many things will change, not just that mother or dad will not be around. They may lost contact with extended family on one side or the other. Their bedtime, mealtime and after school routines may change. It is a state of upheaval. Fear of Being Abandoned. When mom and dad are at odds and are either separated or considering separation, children have a realistic fear that if they lose one parent, they may lose the other. The concept of being alone in the world is a very frightening thing for a child. Losing Attachment. Children who have a natural attachment for their parents also fear losing other secure relationships-friends, pets, siblings, neighbors, and so on. Sometimes children are simply attached to their surroundings, and moving into new surroundings can cause an understandable negative reaction. Coping with Parental Tension. Even though many divorces follow years of tension between husband and wife, the tension level typically increases during and shortly after a divorce. And parents who try to turn their children against the other spouse create an absolutely impossible situation for that child. For obvious reasons, children see divorce as something very traumatic. They are often concerned with their own security, not always with their parent's happiness. Children will question: What if they both leave me? What is it that I did wrong? Did I cause the divorce? Now what's going to happen to me? Children react in different ways with the onset of divorce. Some will be extremely sad and show signs of depression and even sleeplessness. Anxiety levels peak as they feel they are going to be abandoned or rejected by one or even both parents. Some divorce situations may make the child feel lonely. This may be due to a long absence of one of the parents. No matter what the situation, the child will be affected in some way by a divorce. Some children may become psychologically scarred from the experience, and still other children may not be affected emotionally at all. Much depends on how well the parents are able to handle the situation.

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[RebDomain1996]

Thumbs Down This If U Want But Im Glad My Parents Are Doing This... My dad Is Emotionally Abusive And hes An Asshole So Fuck you Dad!

[themightythor27]

Divorce is a tricky business. My parents are divorced and it really does effect you in a lot of ways. Some more noticable than others and often times it isn't noticed at all. I have a fear of love and commitment, taking risks, and opening myself up to other people. I am quick to shut others out when they are trying to help me. I tend to interpret that as people just picking on me. It is something that I have become aware of and I am working on improving about myself. None of you are alone.

[BurningMountin]

@OneAgainstMarriage Marriage isn't the problem, people are.

[BurningMountin]

@SunniLuvsU Do you have a pair of really good head phones? Try listening to music until the fighting stops. It's not good for you to listen to adult fighting.

[BurningMountin]

@SuperTruth77 You and your wife sound like white trash. I feel sorry for your kids.

[MightyXee]

@SunniLuvsU Maybe life will be more peaceful after your parents separate.... together or apart, troubled people will need to work at making life good for each other and their children. Being in an unhappy family isn't good whether married or separated or divorced..... many blessings to you You have the power.. yourself... to create a wonderful life!

[phoenix73662]

dude my dumb ass parents stayed together for me and my sister. i hated my idiot father turned out he was using hardcore drugs. he was a narcissistic prick and my mother was a retard for putting me and my sister through that. Some people need to get divorced. y would a child want to listen to constant fighting and tension. just break it off

[stephenaustinmeehan]

"Divorce" does not have to cause these problems...it is the "custody" that needs focus. Shared parenting should be a legal presumption to protect CHILDREN's rights to both parents. Regarding the "emotionally abusive" comment...what divorced adult doesn't feel emotionally abused...a term that has become a red flag for a weapon against custody...or sharing our "dolls" nicely after Divorce.

[liglugtheslug]

WHY DO YOU MAKE THIS LOOK HUMOROUS? BURN IN HELL!!!!!

[liglugtheslug]

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[KidsNeedParentsEqual]

Sole custody is narcissism most of the time. Sole custody increases narcissism in children, which teachers and employers see more. Why? A recent German study confirmed that 85% of divorced people aren't happier after divorce. So get help for yourself first. When one parent gets almost anything she wants by using the mafia courts and police, children think they can have whatever they want by using people to their advantage. That is the model of behavior they grow up under with sole custody.

[KidsNeedParentsEqual]

Sole custody is narcissism most of the time. Sole custody increases narcissism in children, which teachers and employers see more. A recent German study confirmed that 85% of divorced people aren't happier after divorce. So get help for yourself first.