WLTOW EP1: The Friend Phase

This is the pilot of my new series, When Life Takes Over Wednesdays. Pleasef feel free to comment and video respond. Also include any topics you'd like for me to feature.

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• Ms
• Heather
• Nicole

[Ree4al]

I'm married, but if i wasn't, I would not be looking for platonic friendships with men. Why, because I at this age, I already have enought friends in my life without adding to that. Further, you know when you see someone if your attractive to them and what your intent is. Just be honest and upfront INITIALLY!

Girl, I really only wanted to say that your hair is the BUSINESS in this video, but felt I needed to answere the question first...LOL!

[ItsMsHeatherNicole]

LOL. Thanks for the compliment. And I agree, being upfront is a good way to go, no mixed messages.

[spareld]

I do think that two people can be just friends but just like you said if your not attracted to that person then yes you can have a platonic relationship but it all depends because he can have a great personality and you fall for him...so it depends on the person I believe the samething for me as well. if he's a good man he might want to become friends first and see if you guys share the same interest....sorry I hope that helped but i'm like you i'm trying to get a ring too lol

[ItsMsHeatherNicole]

No everyone's opinion helps, so thank you for chiming in. I definitely agree and see what you're saying.

[ybernard97]

Once you reach a certain age you should only seek relationships of the opposite sex for romantic purposes. I'm recently got married and I can't see myself actively looking for guy friends (my husband would trip out). Putting yourself in that type of situation can only lead to messy problems

[ItsMsHeatherNicole]

Yea I definitely agree about things leading to problems down the road.

[damones1]

You have to have a true friendship before you can become involved in a relationship if you actually want it to work. Women often become way too aggressive once they hear their biological clock ticking and no man ever wants to be pressured or strong armed.

[blackhairchronicles]

First, your hair is on point! Second, what would be the threshold age for stopping the search for platonic friendships because I am 26 and I more times than not find myself in platonic friendships with guys even though I want to go to the next stage in my life. I'm usually platonic for like a year before I allow myself to entertain the thought of possibly wanting more, but if i don't sense any interest on their part I just let it go and move forward in the friendship.

[bkrache]

OMG Ur hair is beautiful! Plz plz plz make a tutorial plz. :)

[maille2]

you are so jolie

[LoveChrissiPoo]

I completely agree at a certain age you dont want to just make friends anymore. Most feel that they are mature emotionally and they have a career or job where they can take it to the next level with confidence. I believe men and women get to this point but they reach it at different ages.

[shrthairdntcare10]

oooohh!! i had to comment!! ok so I am 20 years old (i turn 21 next month) and in the fall I will be a senior in college. Although I am younger than everyone I saw comment I found it sooo interesting that I feel the same way everyone else does. Im am trying to figure out if i am too young to feel like im not interested in being "just friends" with random ppl? Should i use my young years to just have fun? i feel like im beyond my years...someone, anyone please respond

[ksha]

I agree that when adults reach 25+ it's time to stop acting childish and look for something more stable.

[yorkieforsale]

I believe that men are able to make new female friends, but it is more difficult for women to make new male friends without it turning into something else. If everyone is honest and upfront on their intentions and what they are/are not looking for, I think that other person has the choice of staying in the friendship or abandoning it.

[Blindianboy]

this is definitely different for men. men never, NEVER, seek a platonic friendship with a female. those just sort of happen. if anyone tells you different, they are gay.

[diakrite]

-wow..someone has been pondering the harder things...

As a guy in his early 30's, I've always had the opposite. The women I was romantically involved with, almost all wanted to stay "my platonic friends"(except for some really nasty break-ups though)

One of those women is married nowadays. Yet she's still my bosom-buddy/BFF for 20 years now, in everything I do.

I guess it just depends on the person. I know, I know.."cop-out"