One Gay, One Straight: Complicated Marriages

How would you feel if you discovered that your intimate partner is homosexual? Find out, as heterosexual wives and husbands tell their stories directly in this unique documentary. Written and produced by Carol Grever, author of two books on the subject and a straight spouse herself, the film opens the secret closet shared by mixed-orientation families. Intimate interviews dramatically demonstrate that healing is achievable and the experience can lead both gay and straight partners into a more authentic, satisfying future.

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[ChemtrailKathy]

Been married almost 34 yrs I don't know life w/o him.I keep hanging on hoping I can change him I've lived a sexless life most the marriage It's been physically abusive and the mental pain is worse than the physical pain.

I would like to recommend a wonderful book for the wives Straight Wives Shattered Lives by Bonnie Kaye

Within 7 months I hope to be away from this hell as I know I can not change him or make him love me, and that hurts terribly not to be loved back.

[Clemburke1111]

tn I agree, I am gay and 49 and came out in 1978 in a small town, if I can do it any one could.

[moor4348]

I agree with you that they are cowards. But, I do think that this is a very complex issue as well. If anything, gay men and women feeling the responsibility to marry someone of the opposite sex is a product of our society.

Clearly, gay men and women would not feel the need to marry someone of the opposite sex if our society did not place a stigma on being gay and restrict marriage to opposite sex couples.

The solution is clear - let's overcome the stigma and allow gays to marry.

[kotekotekitty]

you are stronger than alot of men.... alot of men would sooner die but it is kinda dumb tho xD

[tnttntowny]

gay men who marry women to save face are cowards

[sillyaccent]

I am gay and I don't understand who in their right mind would harm someone in such a way. I don't get it.

[erinjustyna]

Thank you, Carol for letting others know they are not alone.

[erinjustyna]

Thank you, Carol for telling our story.

[skymir27]

everybody has a homophil vein, cause identiy only can develop and live out with another identity, but identity also depends on non-identity (the opposite sex)...so there are no real borders between gay and straight, and lots of dynamic in the brain development and experiences... perhaps all people are bi (look at prison or borading schools LOL), but I only live sexuality with my wife even if there are always a small homophil erotic, this is why I´m making group sport

[jjbigner]

I really wish this resource had been available when I came out over 25 years ago; it surely would have helped my ex as there was absolutely nothing she could turn to; there was no internet; and there was no support group. A value of this DVD is that it can reach out to people where they are isolated and where the healing may be the most difficult to achieve. Carol Grever has provided a powerful personal touch for dealing with a very complicated, intimate family crisis.