August 30, 2009: Thinking about my birth family

Just a little Sunday morning pseudo-breakdown.

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[GDGspire]

The other Asian kids don't regard me as Asian because, obviously, I'm not, but I also don't feel American. Being American, to me, is all about celebrating your heritage, but I can't do that because I wasn't educated about my culture or language.

My birthmother had me when she was 18 and I wish I knew how she felt about me, how her feelings may have changed since then, if maybe I have brothers/sisters. I understand your frustration and yearning. I hope things turn around for you. Thanks. <3

[stephxhoney]

Have you thought about contacting your adoption agency to learn more about your birth family/potential siblings??

[drunkndrgn88]

where in texas are you? i know there are sizable korean american communities in dallas and san antonio

[stephxhoney]

i'm in a suburb about 40 min. outside of dallas.

[drunkndrgn88]

in korea, there's a family registry. you probably already knew that, though. still, i thought it'd be worth a try. even if you couldn't get in touch with your mom, have you tried contacting your blood sisters? i think you need some korean american friends

[stephxhoney]

hmm family registry.. actually i'm not familiar with it. unfortunately, i don't have the names or any info really about my sisters. just my birth mother and father.

i also have several korean american and asian american friends... but they are mostly in chicago where i went to school.. not in texas where i grew up.

[leinani10]

Thanks so much for sharing your story. As others have said....you are not selfish for wanted to see a face that you see yourself in!! It doesn't mean that you love your adoptive family any less. I will be praying for you!!

[Skye3719]

You are not selfish!!!!!! You deserve to know who your family is. That is selfish of your birth mom if she did see you. She shouldn't keep you from your family. I can really feel what your going through . I will be posting my videos of my prosses as well Please keep in touch. I am so sorry to hear what happened to you but you are not selfish.

[BabyGirlGoddess]

awww....dont cry

you're going to make me cry :* (

[Charmbracelet25]

I don't think it is selfish to want to know your birth family even if you love your adoptive one. I think it's natural. I hope you find what you are looking for.

[fatsotomuscles]

Dayum.

[Lawgiver777]

I dont think your selfish at all for wanting to meet your birth family. Yes be greatful for what you have but I really do not see anything wrong with that. Stay strong.

[easternsmile]

Steph, I looked through your videos and your findings of your birth parent info. it seemed the financial situation became really bad for your mom after his death. your mom was buddhist, she could move to a buddhist temple and lived there, which is not rare in Korea. many temple in that region accepting widows or travellers as either member or guest. I'm not sure if you already checked on that. If it's true, there's a strong chance, she never had a chance to watch TV. Hope you find your mother.

[slappymcgroundout]

Steph, maybe she saw, but maybe your reasons aren't why. Take all your hurt, make it guilt, multiply by 9, and maybe that's why. I'd go the PI route. And never feel "outcast". And there's a downside to, I'm just like them. Means that some need ponder the question, were ancestors sociopaths bent on genocide? And did they have slaves too? So let us not be them. As for me, Steph is, as always, first and foremost, someone for whom my Lord underwent execution by torture as enemy of the peace of Rome.