For victims of child sexual abuse

Recommended video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USTKmffoQms

An attempt to begin to open out this difficult subject so the abused can get the attention and help they need, rather than it all go to the abusers. The victims should not be the ones silenced.

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[lovepeacecharity1]

I'm a 39 yr old woman who is working on my degree to become a mentor & an activist for child abuse..I'm a survivor of incest from the age of 2 from hands of a person that i thought i could trust .. awareness cannot stop..The pain and suffering that "us" victims face is a day to day battle..I might be strong now,but it was through the grace of my husband i'm here today w/ his love & support & the years of counsling.Now it's my job to help others know that they don't have to be alone ..

[Loreleila]

@lovepeacecharity1 I'm very glad to hear you have a supportive husband, the counselling you needed and that you are training to support others who have been through this. People like yourself who have personal experience of abuse can offer so much. Thanks for sharing.

[Persephone9ish]

There seem to be layers and layers to the sexual wounds I received in childhood. So, I have been in numerous types of therapeutic situations to deal with the distressing feelings that continue to emerge over the years. There is a video on YouTube, Sexual Abuse, Anger, Rage, Feeling Worthless that helps now. EFT and Inner Family System therapy, also. Good luck to us all.

[Loreleila]

@Persephone9ish It does seem to be a multilayered issue and those suffering to have the determination and drive to keep going. I wish you well.

[shqiperiany]

@Loreleila you are right . it is natural. it hasn't affected me.. i didn't speak english back then. i though it was normal. i don't think about it everyday thou. only every time i hear the word "abuse" i never though it'd happen to me especially comin from my own countrymen. is it natural not to be affected? i don't have any trusted person to talk about it.. i feel like tellin someone but i think they won't be my friend anymore or they'l tell another person. and i don't have any close friends

[Loreleila]

@shqiperiany It's quite natural to be a little fearful of relationships and it would be hard to say exactly how much what happened to you has influenced this. I'm saddened however to hear that your parents would blame you for what happened, when realistically it couldn't have been your fault. However, do think about that, because most victims of abuse have that same untrue fear. It might help if you found one trusted person to talk this through with. You should be able to find a way past it.

[shqiperiany]

@Loreleila honestly it does makes me fearful of relationships. im 17 now goin 18 in a month and i have never kissed a girl or been in a relationship. i never though what he did to me would be the cause of me bein fearful of bein in a relationship with another girl (im straight) i hav never told this to anybdy. if i told me mom or dad. they would straight up kil me and call me gay and kick me out of the house or whatever. (im not gay thou, i love pussy). i have low self esteem because of him?

[Loreleila]

@shqiperiany Clearly it was abuse, but what really matters is the impact it's had on you, whether it makes you fearful of relationships, self loathing, guilty etc.

[shqiperiany]

i was wondering what i said down there does that mean i was a victim of sex abuse? i didn't know what i was doin thou. i didn't cry. and im a guy too.