Asexual Wanting BDSM But Not Sex...

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I've been asexual all my life. I met my boyfriend on an asexual website. I'm taking medication and now I'm getting a sex drive. Now, all I can think about is BDSM. I can live with normal sex, but I can't be happy with BDSM. My mind would never accept this type of lifestyle. What do I do?

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• asexual
• bdsm
• dominance
• drive
• fantasy
• play
• role
• sex
• submissive

[Obsidean]

why would you want to turn sexual? being asexual rocks

[joethfc]

asexuals dont have these natural urges though

[teddybeartoe]

@controversyking DUDE WTF...

[MAYERFLYER]

Okay, I am a teenage girl... & was wondering if you all would dedicate a video just for teens. Yes, I am sexually active. & would like to know how Jen feels about sex, her fav. condoms, etc. Please.?

I watch your videos, and their helpful, but Id like one just for us... also, tips FOR TEENS buying condoms. I know you have one, but its more difficult buying them as a teen.

Xoxoxoxo, Mayer.

[davlor86]

@ICAVE11 "They may experience sexual arousal, but they're not turned on by anything" interesting, actually i have experienced something like that too . I think all humans have experienced "a little bit" of everything at some moments in our lives, i mean we all have sadistic, masochist, voyeurist, homosexual, heterosexual, etc. "moments" at some point.

[ICAVE11]

@davlor86 That makes sense now, you're right about paraphilias. Anyway, in your last post you said that you were asexual. What are you talking about now? "...it's impossible not to." Nope, that's entirely possible. There are millions of people like that. They may experience sexual arousal, but they're not turned on by anything.

[davlor86]

@ICAVE11 yes, i do still have it actually, but now i just ignore it, i mean now i neither practice it or take too much importance to it. And "asexuality" doesn't exist in human beings, we all get sexually excited (turn on) by something, it's impossible not to.

[ICAVE11]

@davlor86 You probably still have it, they don't go away.

[davlor86]

yeah, i used to have a paraphilia, but now i'm a heteroromantic asexual, paraphilias are just plain sick

[LolFlavoredSoda]

Why do you think you're the most popular couple online? All you do is take the pis out of people's serious problems, no wonder you two won't last 2 minutes with your superficial relationship.

[demanvanhetstokbrood]

@crimsonglass123 Dude, get your act together and start making sense. Ur message is highly discriminating, 'cause you're comparing BDSM with child porn. Here's a basic principle: the child doesn't want to be fucked. The slave WANTS to be tortured and humiliated. Because there's mutual consent, nothing's wrong with BDSM. Please also respect other people's opnions, and don't tell them to STFU. If you don't want to hear about SM (which is your right), then stop watching video's about it.

[SnapeSoul]

Haha, the guy is fun. Not asexual, but I get this...I CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT BDSM. Excuse me. :D I have painfully serious urges to submit. I need to. I can't help it. It drives me insane, it's the worst sort of desire, because if you're not IN a BDSM relationship at the time, it hurts. You want to kneel, you want to be ordered, you want to kiss someone's feet, you want to do whatever the f*** they require, you...can't. Now, imagine realizing that in a church at around age 5? MORAL: DON'T SUPPRESS.