Narcissist Father? Save Your Child

Everything you Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html

The only thing you can do to prevent your son from emulating his father - is to present to him another role model of a NON-narcissist - YOU. Hopefully, when he grows up, he will prefer your model to his father's. But there is only that much you can do. You cannot control the developmental path of your son. Exerting unlimited control over your son is what narcissism is all about - and is exactly what you should avoid at all costs, however worried you might be.

Narcissism does tend to breed Narcissism - but not inevitably. Not all the off-spring of a narcissist inexorably become narcissists.

(From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)

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[memories4me]

... They are very charming they use those in authority against you. Because you are not who they say you are you believe that others really know you and know that you are a very sweet and kind person and when you finally break and tell what is really happening behind closed doors you are not believed. They already have denigrated you so bad to others that no matter where you turn no one will help you. That is why it is very important to document everything the Narc does. They are very good at...

[memories4me]

... changing the context of the events. They are highly believed too because they are so believing because of their charming ways. With Narcs especially if you have children run away as fast as you can. They destroy everything that comes into their path..

[kreativekitty3]

THANK YOU for posting these videos! All my life, I was under a narcissistic abusive father. But I could never put my finger on why he treated me the way he did. One minute abusive, the next mintute taking the family out to dinner followed by more abuse to "keep us in line." It was emotional torment for 20 years. Now, at 27yrs young, I am finally beginning to understand and indentify what I went through and finally start to hear. Thank you so much for these videos!

[saveyoursoulyt]

@jpzxcvbnm My father is a pastor and I believe a NPD to an extent. I was always confused and disappointed as to why a pastor would boast about himself and lacked the compassion and understanding he preached about to the congregation when it came to his own family. Unfortunately, my brother has even worse NPD and is aware of it but could care less. I seriously cannot trust anyone in the church because of my own experiences. I think the church attracts NPDs.

[arlen886]

my narcissist husband thought it was a good idea to take a kneif and make believe he was going to kill my 9 year old son as my child fell to the floor begging for his life my husband acted as if a joke, but my son has never forgotten, I was afraid to get a divorce because of visitation and then being forced to leave my child alone so I stayed now my son is 15 we left 5 months ago and I filed a divorce. I always got my son counseling and help to deal with his father we mostly avoided him.

[DreamsofCentaurs]

My mom took my brothers and i out of school, cut off contact with our older siblings(because they had their own lives) and kept us locked in the house for two years. Always was pitting us against eachother then would tell us not to fight.

[4evrstrng]

Thank you! I realized long ago that if I left my (N) husband, he would receive partial custody of our children. This scared me. He is very good at walking the line - just enough control so that his abuse would not result in losing his children/putting on a great front to others. So, I stayed. I do what you suggest - try to be loving/a better example. I tell them that adults make mistakes, and what behavior would have been more appropriate. My children are older now and are doing really well.

[MimiZ914]

My education on this subject leads me to believe that narcissism is ONE OF THE most toxic personality traits there is. I believe it has risen to an all time high lately judging from reality t.v. and other media toxicity. I see kids on their cell phones at the most inappropriate times and wonder when will it ever end. IT's a tragic tend in human nature and it is being fueled at a ever increasing rate. God help us all.

[blondedbythelight703]

It would be like letting Charles Manson raise your kids!

[Iluvrocket]

the only library I can find your book at is in California. Guess I'll have to buy a copy instead.

[tkathryyn]

You are a good doctor. Thanks. I'm learning a lot:)

[jpzxcvbnm]

My father has NPD and he is a pastor. He used the family for his own gain. He doesn't care about anyone but himself. He never takes responsiblilty, never looks out for others, is lazy, is always power hungry, and exhibits a ton of vices. Whenever I try to do the right thing, my dad gets in the way. Then, when people see all the good things that I do, he likes to take the credit (even if he belittled me in the beginning on it). If people look down on me for any reason, it's always my fault.