Adoption: Lost and Found

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[513pb]

For starters, these women who give their children up are the ones who contact adoption agencies. It is their choice. They sign the papers, they get counseled, they know the decision they are making. They can say no but they dont. Adoption is a solution for them....... Most of these woman dont have the resources to raise their children.

[FauxClaud]

@513pb No we don;t know the impact of the decisons we are making. You don;t know, can't imagine until it is too late.

[lucasdahlseng]

I just want to say thanks to my birth mom, whomever you are, for giving me life and a chance at it instead of abortion. My family raised me well and one day I think we will meet. Until then, thanks a million.

[abc123gpl]

Never give your Baby away.

[krissykirchmann]

@eyeswideopen1993 Cont...Also I didn’t buy my baby nor did I do anything illegal to become her mother. I live in a country where everything is very above board. We were investigated by social services for 6 months and we had to own a home, have substantial savings, life insurance, health insurance, a will and 12 letters of recommendation-in addition to many personal interviews with social workers. You sound extremely ignorant in the posts you sent to me.

[krissykirchmann]

@eyeswideopen1993 Who is this nanny that you keep referring to? I don’t have a nanny. I left my full-time job the day my daughter was born. And not that it is any of your business, or that it matters but I can give birth to a baby-will be doing so in 5 months. Adoption was our FIRST CHOICE, not our LAST OPTION. We have the most beautiful, intelligent, funny, happy child I know. It really doesn’t matter to me how we became a family, and nothing you or anybody else says will change that.

[eyeswideopen1993]

@krissykirchmann If you wan to HAVE YOUR OWN BABY ,THEN DO IT YOURSELF!!! DON'T GO TROLLING BABY SALES AGENGIES (ADOPTION AGENCIES) TO GET A BABY THAR YOU CANNOT HAVE YOURSELF!!!! SHUT UP!!! YOUR NANNY IS A WONDERFUL MOTHER. YOU SHOULD PAY HER MORE!!!

[eyeswideopen1993]

@krissykirchmann Sound pretty illegal to me or you were paying off the judge. How well is your nanny getting along with her new baby...I mean 'your' baby...I mean the baby you bought?

[eyeswideopen1993]

@krissykirchmann You keep telling yourself whatever you want. You are one of the most dangerous people in the world to real families and REAL MOTHERHOOD. YOU COULDN'T HAVE A BABY ON YOUR OWN. You put your precious career first. You gave up YOUR CHANCE AT REAl motherhood. You think the world owes you a baby. So when you finally decided, you just bought a baby, because you have the money. I'll bet your nanny is a wonderful mother. Cry me a river, lady.

[krissykirchmann]

@FauxClaud I am not trying to convince you of anything, just sharing my opinion. Nobody but you is responsible for your life and your decsions. People sometimes make the wrong decsions, but there is no way to go back and change that. I am not out to attack you or try to hurt you, just representing the other side. We can agree to disagree and end it there. Best of luck to you in the future.

[krissykirchmann]

@FauxClaud : I don't live in the United States and it was voluntary infant relinquishment and some adoptions in the country I live in give the birth mother even longer than 7 months. I was considered a foster parent while we were waiting for the paperwork to be finalized and NO the insurance company did not pay a single dime towards my childs medical bills. About to do it all over again and it is worth whatever we have to go through.

[krissykirchmann]

@FauxClaud : You don't have to block me, I just won't come on.

[FauxClaud]

..becasue if we are the same, if we are real people, then as an adoptor, you have to rethink your place in our pain: in the pain of your child's mother, in someday the grief and loss your own child might display..and that is not a place that you are able to live in. You can't face that..so listen, just stop. You'll NEVER convince me otherwise..and I don;t have the time.

[FauxClaud]

@krissykirchmann OK ..you keep on telling yourself all that. Heard it before...you have too much of an emotional investment in adoption. You don't want to hear what we feel, what it is like to be separated from your child. You can't imagine it so you make us out to be somehow lesser, not worthy, choosing this, or simply DIFFERENT than you..