QLP #33: Does anybody know anybody at a party?

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In this installment Nate discusses the possibility of being yourself at a party. Note: Nate is an introverted dork, so keep that in mind when considering his perspective on the subject.

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[knivesy]

No one would describe me as shy. Hell, I have green hair. But even so, I'm awful at meeting new people and talking to them. I'm not going to say alcohol is "the best thing ever", but with a little bit, I care less about "the right thing to say" and make up whatever small talk, and from there go on to a better conversation. There're numerous parties that aren't loud and annoying.. so I guess I AM me at parties, but some times it's fine to be someone else.

[nateonjesuslane]

Good point, Knivesy.

[corle1]

What about a LAN parties? Seriously now, i do go to parties time to time, but depends of the party. I don't hate parties but I prefer house parties or any environment that is comfortable. It also depends on the people, but don't generalize about everybody expecting you to change or submit yourself to some sort of social stereotype. What if you and i meet at a party? How do you know if i wanna be there or not ? Or if i am drinking or not? Like the chick from "Superbad". Agree on the loud talking.

[ihavenokegson]

if you don't change the way you act the moment you get through the door, the beer usually does it for you.

and if it doesn't, you're not drinking enough.

[KateyFaith]

That was intense.

I know that in my case I am different depending on who I am with and its not that I'm not being myself I am just being another side of me. I think there are alot of people who are able to blend into many social groups with out betraying who they truely are.

Personaly the only "party" type setting I am ever in are concerts because I like to be lost in the music and not socialize.

[TriBulated]

what thoughts!!!

that was deep man

i have never been to an actual party

but when i do i will definitely be the designated driver

i am different at parties or with large groups

i dont talk as much

i like hanging with only a few people at a time

i have trouble remembering social things like names and things about people

it is impossible for me to remember these things when i am bombarded by so many people at once

therefore i tend to socialize less when there are more people around

[2ndbreakfast]

I tend to think that I give off the most horrible first impressions. I've no idea if this is true or not, and some people have told me the contrary, but I can't help but think so. What I do console myself with is the idea that if people do get to know me, and if they have character, they usually stick around.

As for you, if my opinion counts for anything, I would say that you seem like a really amazing person. Truly, you're probably one of the best sorts of people I've never met.

[serena751]

Like anyone knows who they are. I don't even know who I am. There is the sitting with my family me. The new people me. The BFF me. The alone me. I don't really know when I'm faking or being myself. I guess I'm the most myself alone, because there is no one else around for me to impress or talk to except maybe my dogs. I don't know. So when are we most ourselves? Or, better yet, what is normal for a person to be? Around others? Alone? How are we defined as odd? or creepy? or not normal? or nerd?

[technologyms]

love the video, nice to find someone with same thoughts i have.

[criz16]

I think we share some common worldviews :p your words sounded like deja vu to me. though you're way much cooler a person than I am ahhaha :p

[blahblahblahEMILY]

i agree with knivesy. i think that when you're young and in the formative years of your adulthood, it makes perfect sense to experiment with who you are, who you'd rather be, etc. in a party setting, i figure that everyone else is just as confused, scared and vulnerable as i am, and that everyone deals with those feelings differently. as long as you get the results you want out of an experience like that, i figure it's worth it in the end.

that was probably super incoherent, but it's 4:40 a.m.

[Deathicorn]

Wallet in front pocket, haha. Even my closest of friends and even family don't even know me. Sometimes people even surprise themselves with their thoughts and actions at times. Do we really know ourselves?party or not?