Sunil, Week 1

Paul tries to help Sunil, a retired math teacher from India, as he strives to cope with living with his in-laws in America after his wife died. He finds his daughter-in-law particularly troublesome. She is apparently narcissistic, which makes her seem self-confident, even though she is basically insecure. The job of a narcissistic person's spouse is to support and take second place to the narcissist. Such spouses generally choose to marry narcissistic people because of a parent that was narcissistic, too. A life lived in such of a supporting role can cause a person to find it difficult to have goals of his or her own. Sunil may have this problem, if his wife was also narcissistic.

Category:

Entertainment

Tags:

• In Treatment
• Grief
• Narcissism

[MsHannelore]

I think she is a controller and is threatened by the fathers presence. Some co dependency going on maybe.

[ControlMastery]

@MsHannelore I agree. She feels threatened by everyone, and so must control everyone to feel safe, and therefore goes into a panic mode when someone resists her manipulations.

[cbegbe]

Do you think that he eats his sweets because he doesn't want to eat the food that his daughter-in-law has paid for?

[ControlMastery]

@cbegbe Too early to judge. An interesting possibility, though.

[jenannvick]

insulting julie is soo insulting.....hmmmm

[allfruitandflowers]

I think he eats sweets for the same reason recovering addicts do.