Trans (FTM) Dating - lesbian to straight to all

Me talking about what may occur or what I feel would occur to dating/coming out to a straight girl if on T or identify as transgender. Then of a bit of recent dating experiences and questions.

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[Aprinsa]

I don't personally identify much with gender, but I am cissexual... attracted to women, but open-minded. I don't know how it would be for me with an FTM person... I wonder, what is it that you identify with in maleness/masculinity? That would make a difference to me. I think I am attracted to people who are sharply aware of their emotions, which Julia Serano claims has to do with estrogen. But I dunno... is it true? The few men I tend to be attracted to are gay and feminine.

[cheyanne2314]

@Aprinsa Oh? How do we speak alike? I indeed should not judge straight women or even lesbians. It is only difficult to let myself not be defensive and be vulnerable to most as a person.. much less trying to convince someone that I'm not a freak and doesn't change who I am as a person. Sharply aware of feelings I can say yes to. Although my mode of expression isn't always so feminine. I consider another person's feelings before I inject my own into the equation. I don't like the male

[cheyanne2314]

@Aprinsa construct or some male company unless they too bend the gender binary expectations. So I wonder what you define as maleness for that can be the only way I can answer. And going the transitioning process isn't done lightly. I would also prefer staying in my birth sex and being "lesbian"-ish if I didn't feel so strongly against my feminine body.

[koleenxnamilan]

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[Aprinsa]

@cheyanne2314 You should answer based on what you see as male/masculine because I asked about YOUR identity. Whether or not I am attracted to it is a question for me, not you. It doesn't matter how I *consciously* define femininity - I don't think femininity means anything per se, at least not consciously. All I (kind of) know is what I am attracted to.

[Aprinsa]

I do get fear of dating straight women, though, as personally I even find that weird since I wouldn't expect them to be attracted to me... I mean, I am more comfortable with the idea of ending up with a straight woman who just falls for one female than transitioning genders and dealing with an entirely different community and a flip in the group of people that is attracted to me. It sounds like it would require flipping the world upside down.

[Aprinsa]

The way you talk on video reminds me of myself. Anyway... don't judge all straight women. I agree that most will likely be something like you expect, but not all. It's good to hear your perspective, though. :) I'm glad I don't have to go through that because I am already attracted to so few people and have actually never dated.

[louisvillepoet]

oh, damn those straight girls! Nothing but trouble; but, damn, the heart never listens to the head, huh? It's never fair for anyone on the LBGT-side....we have all the risks, the gambles, and everything to lose. Straight woman risk nothing; they could just wake up one morning, grab their track jacket, and say, 'hey, this isn't for me."