MargaritaSAYS: Is it normal to be loyal sexually to one partner?

MargaritaSAYS: Is it normal to be loyal sexually to one partner?
If yes it is, then why so many people cannot accomplish this?

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[YountFilm]

What are the criteria for "normal?" Is "normal" that which came first? In that case, asexual bacteria are normal, and sexual reproduction is the weird thing. Sex emerged because some species followed different urges & desires. No one wrote any rules. Do whatever fits you, accept whatever consequences. For some, monogamy is a fit. Wolves are like that. For others, like certain birds, having multiple partners is fine. Be what you are.

[MargaritaShamrakov]

@YountFilm

Thank you for your comment!

I just learned about coolidge effect in mammals, it is basically when female and male together for a long time they lose sexual interest and once you introduce a new female or male, they get very interested. Maybe we are not meant to be with one person for like ETERNITY?

[met324354]

A book I read recently discusses exactly this topic. What is our natural behavior from prehistoric times to today in terms of sexuality. The answer is simple, standard theories ingore important evidence indicating that humans are sexual animals with the need to have sex with many people and a lot of times. We don't need sex just to reproduce, we dont fuck a few times in our life, but a few thousands. The book is named "Sex at dawn".

P.s. Margarita, you are quite pretty. Enjoy life.

[verwoodzuluboy]

love doesn't change as often as sexual desire

[missdemeanour555]

Monogamy is unnatural. It all began with religion, invented to control people, thus many believe it is natural to be with one partner forever. It is all fairytales. The whole 7 year itch originates from neanderthal times, when a caveman impregnated a female, then left her after 7 years, when the child was old enough to help mother pick berries & skin animals.

[ThisYoungLibertine]

I want to fuck you.

[fireeyedb0y]

So what is important to me here is that I guard my boundaries and make sure I am able to communicate this to a significant other. Then it is up to this partner to decide how much she wishes to respect this boundary.

Same goes the other way around. If my partner is able to communicate her boundaries, I try to make sure I respect these. If I don't, I might conclude I don't care enough for this person, or maybe she will conclude this much earlier than myself. :)

[fireeyedb0y]

Another point I'ld like to make is, that eventhough I don't believe the human species is particularly monogamous, and I myself might not be particularly monogamous, that doesn't stop me from feeling betrailed/angry when I'm in a relationship and my partner wants to have/or has sex with somebody else.