Male Promiscuity

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[bla34112]

You're kinda misrepresenting male promiscuity, or promiscuity for that matter.

[ContraPoints]

@bla34112 I'm representing one version of it. I'm not suggesting that everyone needs to engage in long-term monogamy all the time. Only that promiscuous sex that treats other people as belt-notches or accessories or otherwise less-than-human is a toxic way of behaving.

[simplic1000]

Interesting. I broadly agree, although "sociopaths" was probably a bit overboard.

Analyzing pop culture for such tropes can be very rewarding. One often finds one has been living one's life & thinking one's thoughts based on a script written by somebody else.

[ContraPoints]

@simplic1000 " One often finds one has been living one's life & thinking one's thoughts based on a script written by somebody else." It's incredible, isn't it?

[ToddAllenGates]

When I joined a road band at age 21 (back in 1984), the anticipation of groupies was one of the most exciting aspects. And with my first groupie, the walk back to her apartment was in fact very exciting. But then when it came to the 'naked in bed' part--doing something so intimate with a stranger--yes, it surprised and even shocked me how empty it felt: kind of like I was just using her as a piece of meat to jerk off into.

[ContraPoints]

@ToddAllenGates It's amazing how the things you want and the things you like (once you get them) can be so opposed to one another.

[Farf420]

You should go watch girlwriteswhat's videos. Shes a MRA who makes very good points that deserve a lot more consideration than they get.

[WorthlessLoser8]

You mention having "seems like being such an internal organic desire" which sounds to me to fit with the evolutionary psychological theories, regardless of your frustrations with the results.

For the purposes of procreation if you feel bad afterwards, well, what do your genes care? Maybe you have a truth about how to be happy here, but no refutation of what men actually DO seem to want and what seems to actually be true about maleness.

[WorthlessLoser8]

Man i wish you used the term "raper" and left rapism out of it... Blech.

[WorthlessLoser8]

The evolutionary psychology perspective rests upon evidence and studies...

The opera and "bro culture" explain far less than evolutionary psychology's contributions on this topic.

[WorthlessLoser8]

What you pay attention to and advocate for will inherently benefit from your work and time... Feminism helps women.

Once you get past sexuality and you see some of the deeper problems in society you can definitely identify many issues that require a more robust masculism that is lacking currently. Feminism is not lacking now and it sometimes does leave men out of the equation.

[TheAlexANGST]

Agreed. Engaged in such activities, felt an emptiness from it, and it has actually driven people away from my life, so it has been, undoubtably, a negative experience.

[TheIlluminerdi]

@TheIlluminerdi

But to answer why I did it...

You can send me a message if you'd like to hear the full explanation, which you might be interested in hearing. I think you're right about it being sociopathy, but I think your idea of what a sociopath is (and the driving forces) may not be correct.

[TheIlluminerdi]

I won't dismiss the evolutionary psychology explanation because our history is that of a pack mammal, like lions, deer, wolves, etc., and we still have traces of that nature in us. We have innate alphas, determined serotonergically, within packs.

That doesn't mean it's not the naturalistic fallacy in assuming this is somehow better, though. I can say from my own experiences that I have had a damaging addiction, but, as someone who isn't "NT", not once did I do it for social implications.

[AelaTheHuntress]

I think that the idea of promiscuity is a very complicated thing. We have men being told that sleeping around is generally a posititive thing for them. We have women being told that being a slut is very bad, but at the same time if she is sexually unavailable this is very bad too. At least men are only recieving one message, consistency right? I wonder if some day humans will progress past the giggling high school like reaction to sex and actually deal with it in a reasonable way.

[Parrotguy1999]

Whilst it's certainly true that feminism isn't at all anti male, it's also certainly true that many who label themselves as feminist are.