Androgyne Coming Out

Pica wonders how and why does an androgyne come out, and has a confession to make.

Interest is maintained by a the sharon stone effect, unintentional i promise.

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• androgyne
• transgender
• genderqueer
• gender
• coming
• out
• dress
• sharon
• stone
• effect

[Darkoshi]

When dealing with people in real life, it just doesn't seem normal to announce one's gender. Guys don't announce, "Hi, I'm a guy". And women don't announce, "I'm a woman." So for me to come out and say something like "I'm an androgyne"... it would seem weird, even if I explained what it meant. It's just explaining something about my mind. The average person won't react by thinking "Oh, I thought ze was a woman but ze's actually an androgyne!", but rather "this woman thinks she isn't a woman".

[picaVpica]

your right, in real life it mostly doesn't affect you. Because in real life people deal in case by case basis.

Though it might pay to mention it to a good mate, if there was someone known to point at and go, 'I'm one of them' then that might be a nice casual way to say it, and they might treat you more as you wish.

If there was a known person.

[figtus]

Boy George identified as neither man or woman, but most people associate him with just being gay. And I don't know about Pete Burns...

[picaVpica]

pete burns identifies as male, just an odd looking fishy lipped male.

[justanotherjunkaddy]

I haven't come out to my family because it hasn't seemed relevant. As a biological female, no one thinks twice about me wearing men's clothing, and I'm not in a relationship. I don't feel any urgency to tell them either, because it's not a change in who I am or what I do, only a change in what it's called.

I do love your videos, Pica. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.

[mistresspav]

and because its so real and present that even sounds ridiculous to talk about and because sounds overly simplified when put to words. not easy to define a soul.

cheers!

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[Darkoshi]

I've told many people online that I'm an androgyne... online, it makes sense to tell people what gender you are, especially if one has a non-gender specific name, because then they are probably wondering about it, anyway. And it's a way of introducing oneself, explaining a part of who one is. But even after they meet me in person, as the case may be, sometimes I think they think it's just some odd thing I believe, and like my mom, it doesn't really change how they view or think of me.

[Darkoshi]

I told my mom at least once that I was androgyne, and tried to explain it. I don't think it made much of an impression on her. I'd have to tell her over and over again, and then maybe she'd remember that this gender-thing is actually somewhat important to me, but she'd probably still think of me like she thinks of me, as her daughter. So why should I even bother, and what difference does it make.

Ah, why does youtube only allow such short comments.

[musely81]

I think if you feel like you are 'hiding' anything, or that you are being held back by people not knowing about your being androgyne then yes I think it's something you should consider more seriously (telling people). If you don't feel repressed or anything maybe that grants you a little more time to do some research etc. Maybe you could write a book on he subject?!