Narcissistic People III: Let's Heal

First things first, consider finding counseling or a support group. Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be just another form of abuse. So you have to recognize that this post-relationship emotional weight you are carrying is affecting how you see yourself and the world around you, possibly in a negative way. In order to fully recover, you may need help. It doesn't mean you're crazy, it means you value yourself and your life enough to want to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again!

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Second of all, give yourself the gift of a clean break. Resist the temptation to reconnect with that person, be they roomate, ex-significant other, or even abusive family member. Cutting them off is not "mean", no matter how guilty they try to make you feel. It's the BEST decision you can ever make for yourself.

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Third, start to sort out what opinions you have that come from you and what opinions are just an effect of the influence that narcissist may have had over you. You need to start to reclaim yourself as an individual, not out of rebellion, but out of a sense of recovery and the desire to build a life for yourself.

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Reconnect with those who love you unconditionally. Whether that be friends from high school or trusted family members. Sometimes, we not so mysteriously disconnect from those we love when in a relationship with a narcissist. This is usually by the design of that narcissist for security reasons. So reconnect and build those bridges.

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Get mad. Get really mad. It's okay to be sad as well, but it's important to connect with that feeling of anger against that narcissist for the ways they took advantage of you. Anger in this case is GOOD. You deserve to feel angry for what they did to you, and it can also protect you from their attempted future abuse.

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Get some alone time. You'll need to find your own voice again. Don't drown out your thoughts or feelings, even if they're painful. It's okay to be alone, whether that means for a few hours or simply not being in a romantic relationship. If you do jump into a relationship to distract yourself from the pain, it will only sabotage that reltionship and distract you from the work of healing.

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Heal through giving. By reaching out to others in any way, shape, form, or fashion...you are proving to yourself that you will not be changed by the selfish abuse you've been subjected to. Also, it will keep you from fixating on your own situation. As bad as things are for you right now, there are others who have it even worse.

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[Dnh3one]

I recently got out of a relationship with a Narc. Matter of fact... I have only dated Narcs... They hurt me in the heart and what not.. But I am unable to cry lol... I can't grieve.. HELP! How do I get past that and move on. Holla

[ShinIsTrue]

@Dnh3one that mess is tough even if you did really care about them too... Man it depends on how much you want to move on, how much you want to grow from the situation. I had to look at myself and see if I had some traits too. I did... we do attract who we are even if they have SO MUCH more...

[keta4332]

i agree with ShinisTrue!

[ShinIsTrue]

@keta4332 thank you Keta if anybody needs to hear this let them see it. ll 3 parts to identify the problem, find the solution, then start healing from it.

[keta4332]

@ShinIsTrue

u r welcome! i'll post these on f/b. my home girl from high school, love ur vids!

[ShinIsTrue]

@keta4332 thank you Keta tell her I said much love and stay strong in these times!

[dremanontoppp]

Thanks man

[pray4salvation]

great video, thank you!

[keta4332]

@ShinIsTrue

:)

[ShinIsTrue]

@Hmmletmeguess All right I'll check now.