Passive Aggressive Anger

Listen as Tom discusses the Top-10 Tactics of Passive Aggressive Anger.

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• Christian
• Counseling
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• Agressive
• Anger
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[AtTheWellMinistries]

You have a typical response to pure ignorance of a person who is bitter and most likely was unwilling to receive instruction. Yes there are bad counselors, but most of the time when counseling doesn't work, is because one or both parties refuse to take personal responsibility to do what needs to be done. like take medication, or stop drinking etc.....

[AtTheWellMinistries]

Counseling is for the victim to get strong enough to set real boundaries that doesn't allow the perpetrators to continue to hurt you. The problem with victims setting boundaries is that they play by the "rules" but the perpetrators don't. Victims are not mean enough.

[AtTheWellMinistries]

The only reason a passive aggressive person continues to do what they do, is because you continue let them do what they do. Many people want me (the counselor) to fix the PA, but why would they listen to me? I don't sleep with them, share money with them, share children with them, or really even care much about them, but you, on the other hand, have much more power to change them then I do. You are the one that needs change so they can't do what they do.

[Robertthegreat12]

Great video,But i diasagree on Just ONE of those reasons which is reason #7. What If You dont want to joke with that person for the simple fact that there arent funny and someone else u joke with is. I understand your point, but in all cases i dont think that should apply.

[AtTheWellMinistries]

@Robertthegreat12

You have a right to think what you choose, regardless it still holds true that if you are deliberately not laughing or joking with your spouse because of internal animosity, you are passive aggressively getting them back and they should not put up with it.

[AtTheWellMinistries]

It sounds like you have some real issues. If that is the only way you have learned to deal with unruly and dysfunctional people, they have molded you to conform to their manipulation, in turn you have become manipulative.

[jeweltee69]

Hi, Thank You. This behavior is so extremely frustrating, a nightmare for someone who is co-dependent, has low self esteem, and who feels loved by physical affection. My father is this way and so is my husband and I wonder do I seek men that are PA to try to prove i am lovable? Marrying a PA is like marrying a liar, he seems to go out of his way to not Love, honor or cherish me. A behavior he learned from a very violent homelife I tried to be sensitive or understanding, now I am done. I t

[lavvy2585]

@AtTheWellMinistries

I agree with you

[michellediamondpearl]

My ex was a passive aggressive -- I was young and naive and didn't know anything about psychology -- I am glad that I got rid of him and since have become educated on human behaviour.

[candycoatedpink]

Great video, Thank you for this video, especially the part about the porn. No one else has touched on this being passive aggressive behavior. You are excellent!