Can narcissism / a narcissist be cured?

Kim and Steve of the love safety net talk about moving beyond narcissism in their marriage.
http://www.narcissismcured.com/

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[pkpapers]

Good to see some info different from the usual "we can figure out how to treat narcissism therefore there is no hope" kind of stuff. It seems that the social science model of approaching the problem is inadequate and needs to be replaced by one that employs the wisdom that humanity has aquited over the millenia -- much of which can be applied to treating narcissism.

[kimandSteveCooper]

@pkpapers Thanks PKPapers. Wisdom and humanity is the key. The narcissistic exterior can be broken without injuring the vulnerable soul inside the surface of the nasty, narcissistic defence. We can as a society, become more aware of when a person has lost his/her way, and is acting with false pride and narcissism. Our awareness allows us to remain kind, while setting boundaries and insisting on better behaviour. Hopefully, Kim and I can inspire others with this kind of approach. Steve Cooper

[MyJuicyBeauty1]

I suffer from NPD and I hate it Ive lost everyone I love and I just want help but it's more about the victims that we have hurt...I'm a good person and I want to be normal I've ruined my relationship. I need help

[kimandSteveCooper]

@MyJuicyBeauty1 - Hey I really feel for you - please check out Steve's site at narcissismdotcomdotau one of the hardest things to do can be to admit that we are sorry and are embarrassed - but people usually do find it endearing. We have lots of help and support to offer in our books - I hope that they help you.

[patriciacarrasco]

@PinkShirtz good for u for not caving into the guilt that u may have for "leaving" ur family behind in order for u to survive. or maybe im just projecting because im struggling to leave my family behind even though i wanna help them but i feel that im gonna get sucked in w/ them and get corrupted. i dont know what to do, i wanna help them...but how can i help them if i can become like them if im around them too much?

[PinkShirtz]

I have disconnected from my family totally and it saved me from growing into a narcissist. And  just to think of going back to have any contact with them simply makes me feel so desolate and despairing, that frankly people need to listen to themselves and what's in their heart. Leaving afforded me the ability to develop personally and to become morally mature, which was totally impossible around the turmoil pain anxiety and abuse that occurs around my family.

[kimandSteveCooper]

@alexys72904 - We make these movies at home and Steve works on our help desk now assisting people - our lives are very private and he cares about me and our kids now more than anything in the world. I understand you are hurting but taking out your pain on us wont change your situation. The steps you need are in our ebook Back from the Looking Glass. If you really can't afford $10 just write to our help desk and explain that politely and it will probably be Steve who gives it to you for free.

[alexys72904]

@kimandSteveCooper Sorry, asking a narcissist to go on a very public show and tell the world he is a big child and is wrong, is just not plausible. It would be like asking you to go on here and admit to the world that you are selfish and only think about yourself. So, you tamed the untamable beast. Sorry, I just can't see how every other narc ruins the life of everyone around them including their own. But yours gave all that up for someone he could never truely care about!?

[kimandSteveCooper]

@jpzxcvbnm - In my case the professional therapists were no help whatsoever and many of them now come to us for advice ...

Kim Cooper

NarcissismCured

[jpzxcvbnm]

In most cases, you cant change people with NPD. But the best case scenario is when you take someone with NPD and SOMEHOW bring him/her to a professional therapist. Though people with NPD cannot fully change, the lucky ones can get much better over time.