Excerpt from the Film Adopted

In this scene from Adopted, Jennifer tries to explain to her mom how it felt to grow up Asian in a white world. For more information visit www.adoptedthemovie.com

Category:

Education

Tags:

• white privilege
• asian
• asian american
• transracial adoption
• adoption
• international adoption

[jenkinscrowe]

Love is wonderful, and every child deserves it, but it can't "make up for" growing up in an alien culture. Parents need to be a LOT more aware than this if they want to adopt internationally and/or interracially.

[1YellowStiLetto]

i feel bad for this woman, the mother is just lying there almost denying that all these bad things ever existed towards her "daughter." not to be mean, but i wouldn't want white families to adopt these asian children, despite how loving they are.

[metaldragon82]

@jenkinscrowe Totally agree. Adoption will always happen. I don't want to see it banned. But a lot more research needs to be made into attachment issues, parents need to be more aware of what their kids will need. One issue is, is that many adoptees don't want to tell their parents how they are feeling, because they feel they are betraying them.

[CitizenOvTheWorld]

the "daughter" didn't communicate enough to the mother either that she was going through all of that. it works BOTH ways. No way I'm adopting any of the millions of asian children that have no homes to go to, other than the abusive "kid-camps" they're raised in. .... lets go one step further, why adopt at all for that matter. Come on now. Seriously, ALLLL families have issues, but we just have to work together as communities the world over, to stop the bullying. STOP THE BULLYING!!!!!!!

[CollieNikkiCoco]

Yeah I totally agree from someone who is adopted. :(

[leli0601]

@nursewithapurse Still, adoptees should be grateful for the opportunity their families gave them. Children who do not get adopted work for the orphanges when they grow up. They do not have chances. That's why people preffer adopting them. Everyone is teased in some point in their lives. Just like everyone always struggle to define their identidy and discover who they are. Adoptees are not the only ones with those problems.

[nursewithapurse]

By nature, being American means experiencing racism... This is a melting-pot of the world. African Americans, Hispanic, Italians, Asians, Indian--- ALL These cultures have been discriminated against!!! What about obsese ppl??? They are the most abused, teased & taunted in the US. Then disable ppl or unattractive ppl... The poor are horribly discriminated against. My Mother is an alcoholic, then I became one. I was abused for that!!! but I don't let it ruin my life!!! All americans are abused!!!!

[tomboy313]

I understand that she feels different....but she also needs to learn to try to avoid this...I'm hispanic and I live in a caucasian community where I go through the same feelings as her. She just needs to be strong and ignore the bad talk and thoughts even though it might be hard, because if she keeps this up shes just hurting herself even more and her adoptive family.

She should be grateful that they took her in! I mean they payed for her clothing, food, ect. instead shes stabbing them also

[nursewithapurse]

I wholeheartedly agree! Caucasian ppl in US should not adopt asian babies/children. They should leave them in the orphanges. Seems the overriding feeling of these videos is that the asian's do not want to come here, only to be teased. taunted and beratted. However, seems most adoptees HAVE been educate loved & not abandoned. Which is what the adoptive parent takes an oath not to do.

[MahoganyDesk]

Self-loathing and wanting to change comes not solely from racism but from all sorts of places. I've yet to meet a single teenager who didn't want to change something about themselves. It's sad that she got teased but to blame it on her mom? She should blame it on the kids who were teasing her. She never shared her feelings with her mom at the time. Parents are just people an can't read your mind. Sounds more like she wants to vent but can't track down the kids, so goes to the one person she can.

[khalilahinjapan]

lol i had to laugh. this woman is like baby just let me get some sleep while her daughter is pouring her heart out. I think this woman did the best that she could but it was society that created those problems easily. that woman gave her daughter love. American society creates these problems from just giving an interracial couple a dirty stare to making rude comments about someone who is different. thats why i stay out of that bigot country. people are much nicer in japan.

[Bloodgod40]

She seems to be just about blaming her (adoptive) mom for getting racist teasing at school as a 12 year old.

The ability of kids to be cruel is legendary, it's been that way for centuries. And as she says the self loathing she developed as a kid was the result of the kids who were assholes to her (like the boy on the bus going on about dental floss blindfolding), so I don't see why she almost seems to be placing some of the blame on her mom.