A Living Eulogy

Given we are a community who thinks and wakes up to living with cancer each day we, more so than others, we often look through life through a different lens. Because we never know when our ride on the bus of life will end.

Yet it can also be frustrating to re-enter the normal patterns of life after treatment because many of the people around you haven't yet been hit by that cosmic 2 by 4, to be so reminded. The fact is, out of our own fear and not wanting to die, our lives are actually enriched by this damned disease. And it's such an uncomfortable thing to say, because cancer sucks. And you don't want to give it any credit for anything.

So I'd like to make a simple suggestion: Not only do you want to live your life in a way that makes each day sweet enough to be your last, but you may want to consider telling the people you love what they really mean to you, and what makes them so special because they are riding on that bus of life, too.

As well as make the time share what you learn as you go along in your own life that might help them enrich their time between the dashes... the ones between born and died, on our tombstones.

Category:

Howto & Style

Tags:

• life after cancer
• post treatment
• cancer and relationships
• communication and cancer
• breast cancer

[DawnRamari]

@IronDeciple I have found many messages of living fully in the facing of death. One of life's ironies. Happy the video served you well. I take no offense in any comment that comes from a good heart. Godspeed, Dawn

[IronDeciple]

I've never known anyone close to me who had cancer, but I think the living eulogy thought is great and very true. It will inspire me to aim higher in life and not waste time or spend a lot of time hesitating etc. Thanks for spreading the word, people shouldn't wait to get sick before they start valuing life more.

You are very beautiful by the way. I know that has no relevance to the video or content, but it's just a general observation which I hope you won't mind or take offence to.

[DawnRamari]

@silentfades My heart goes out to you. It is so unnatural, so unexpected, for a child to die before a parent. There is always a huge void when we lose someone we love, but none as cutting as that of a child who was only given a glimpse at life. And so frustrating as the parent to feel so helpless because you'd do anything if only you could make your child all better again. Take good care, Dawn

[silentfades]

death of a parent complex ? try death of a child then you can tell me about complex.