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[Lemileant]

As a gay teen who's just recently come out, I have noticed small changes in my mannerisms in the direction of a "flamer", but nothing too obvious. My voice hasn't changed at all. I also don't interact with any other gays that are out of the closet (as far as I know), so I don't think my environment is rubbing off on me. Although, it could be a reaction to the suppression of gays in my environment, considering I live in Maine, a very rural state with a firm stance against gay marriage...

[TheAist]

@Lemileant obviously you know your situation better than me, however, you should consider that, just because you might not be around any openly gay people, you still know what a flamer is, therefore, it has entered your environment, whether thru TV or whatever. Otherwise, you wouldnt know what one was. Anyway, thanks for the input, and most importantly, just be you :)

[lookatdoor]

It's because they no longer have to hide anything that might mark them as different. I'm a lesbian so I'm not the exact target, but when I was younger, I sometimes tried to stop myself from doing things that felt natural to me because I thought they would give me away as being a lesbian. Now that I'm older and more confident, I don't try to hide anything about myself anymore. I do what feels natural. Sometimes that means being stereotypical, sometimes it doesn't.

[TheAist]

@lookatdoor kool, thanks. im glad you dont feel you have to repress yourself anymore. im very anti-repression.

[oraclecrank]

I'm gay and I'm told I have a gay-sounding voice. I don't intentionally cultivate it but I also don't go out of my way to hide it or cover it up. Why should I? Homophobes tend to be closet cases anyway.

Take for instance closeted people who are out on internet forums. They HATE so-called flamers. My guess is they're (1) jealous because they don't have the courage to be out themselves and (2) looking for an acceptable outlet for the homophobia that keeps them in the closet to begin with,

[TheAist]

@oraclecrank i think you're probably right on both counts. im sure the pressure of being in the closet is over whelming. im all about personal freedom, breaks my heart when people repress themselves in any way.

[TheAist]

@tsama206 thats a very good point. thanks for contributing. i can relate, im an anti-theist, and tho no gestures would give me away, i constantly have to watch what i say in every situation.

[tsama206]

Before I came out I wouldn't even gesture, stand, or sit in a manner that might cause others to question my sexuality. Considering I am not remotely flamboyant or effeminate.. it doesn't surprise me that someone who was might go to extremes to hide it.

[TheAist]

@lc237 thanks, i have actually looked into those, checkout the video this one is a promo for. link is in the description box, thanks again!

[TheAist]

@spinkydoodle101 there is a sliding scale of both sexuality and gender idnetity, and they often do collide, but are separate things. check out the video i made, that this was a promo for, link in the description box.