Friendship, Socializing & the Impact Of Chronic Illness

Living up to others' expectations/desires/wants/wishes for us, socially and otherwise, is very stressful for those Living with debilitating chronic illness. @Penguini1982 posted a video about this issue, and this is my response to support her. I LOVE YOU PENGUINI! XOXOX

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[SheWhoFeels]

@NJSMKMMS: Hey sweetheart! I am so glad you found the Chronic Illness Community too! I have been helped so much by the genuine friendships I've forged here. Stick around love! I am sorry you have suffered similarly with those who choose not to be respectful or deal with us on our necessary terms. It sucks. Well now you will have lots of support! <3 Be well, precious one! Xoxox

[SheWhoFeels]

@rx2mozart: thanks, love! Xoxox

[SheWhoFeels]

@innerbeauty1000: Hey sweetie! I agree. I bet most everyone in our Chronic Illness Community has been through this too. I'm getting through today bit by bit. Hope you're feeling as well as possible! <3<3<3

[SheWhoFeels]

@tslu1970: I feel you, love. My hubby does the same. It is awful to be so sick that on most days, we can't even help out. I do bake him special things when I can though & we cuddle lots, but I wish I could keep a beautiful home for him & always have a hot dinner ready for him. I feel like such a bad wifey. :/

[SheWhoFeels]

@FootprintsInTheSand7: Thank you so much. I agree 100% about the benefit of knowing we're not alone. Sending much love your way, precious one!<3

[SheWhoFeels]

@Penguini1982: Yay, I am so glad it has brought you comfort! I am so happy to talk with you more too. After all, you are the first chronic illness vlogger who inspired me to reach out! I hope tonight goes well & I look forward to talking more tomorrow! Are you a texter by the way? ;) Much love sweetie! <3

[NJSMKMMS]

Thanks so much SWF's. So glad to know you and all those that have Chronic health issues.

[NJSMKMMS]

by day to day is my long and short term goal. The future will look after it's self, but thats another story........................

God bless

[NJSMKMMS]

at times very demanding people, sadly this includes my own mother. People that have made zero consession for our (the boys and I) illness. Those that can't understand you are not them, you don't want or need the same as they do. OK you fairly quickly find yourself friendless or if you are blessed enough, to have a besty or two left but who wants people that really don't undrstand or want to understand anyway..........not this little black duck, I seriously don't have it in me. Just getting

[NJSMKMMS]

don't understand my keep it simple rule. I only have so much energy and tollerance and it does not include pandering to people

[NJSMKMMS]

said before you were ill you were still a home body. I had allot of solitary persuits too but when I felt like it or needed to I had the energy it requires to socialise, still normally with family or a really "genuine" people but I did it and usually had a ball. Now I keep everything very simple because it's not only me but I have 2 very different but never the less chronically ill children that need to be taken into account first. I no longer have contact with extended family because they

[NJSMKMMS]

Wow you are so intuative, thus the name I suppose LOL I am so glad to have found all of you C I people on youtube. I feel like at long last I have met a group of people who may be as different as chalk and cheese but who still get"it" I notice a distinct lack of what I have come to call the BS factor among us which is eally such a rare thing in the outside "real" world or perhaps this is the real work and many or most of those we know in face to face reltionships are the non real ones. As you