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[jeremyethan17]

lol

I have to tell people that there is no such thing as a penis transplant..

[jeremyethan17]

So.. How's yours coming along? lol.. That's the kind of thing I would have tried after he asked that. lol.

Genitals aren't a subject that come up during small talk..

[sillyyetsuccinct]

Yes, so I suppose you think I should have launched into a long response about the pros and cons of phalloplasty and metoidioplasty and how I feel about the T-growth and how I have sex and how surgery complicates my plans for pregnancy? How the hell am I supposed to answer his question in PUBLIC in a way that would possibly be comfortable for me? I HATE thinking about my lack of a penis. I get upset about it on my own. When I am out running errands I do not want to be reminded of the issue.

[sillyyetsuccinct]

I disagree with both of you. His behavior was not out of line because I was "sensitive" about the issue. It is inappropriate for a salesman to ask a customer about their genitalia. Period. It is discrimination NOT because he was prejudice but because he provided lower quality customer service than he would to a cisgender person. Curiosity does NOT grant a person entitlement. What is between someone's legs is their own private business!

[youngwithoutyouth]

I agree with this. I find a lot of trans people to be far too sensitive about other people asking them questions. I'd much rather everyone was more open and blasé about these subjects. It shouldn't be a touchy subject for anyone, and perhaps being less sensitive should create some ease on that topic...

[locamorenanena]

I thought you would disagree. I'm not going to try to change your mind about what discrimination is according to you and your interpretation of it. People have asked me MANY rude/inappropriate things and most of the time it is sheer human curiosity and not really discrimation. True, they wouldn't do it to the people they see every day because they are accustomed with those people. You're right, he is not permitted to touch, however if he asks & they permit him to touch, then what?

[clstig]

Although I understand where you're coming from, I sometimes wish people would be more blunt with me. The fact that the clerk was genuinely interested meant that he was comfortable with the topic. If he had been uncomfortable, or if he had discriminative biases, chances are you would have gotten some odd looks and a lot of awkward pauses. I personally prefer when people are open and honest - it kills that feeling of tension that, in my mind, doesn't need to be there.

[sillyyetsuccinct]

I disagree. In a professional situation I expect to be treated with the same respect as anyone else. If a white salesman has never seen a black person before, it doesn't matter how curious they are about the texture of the customer's hair they are NOT permitted to touch it. It doesn't matter how curious a salesman is about a customer's penis or vagina he is not allowed to ask them about their genitals. I expect the same courtesy. Anything less IS discrimination.

[naturaljumper]

hey, do you gonna have a phalloplasty ? ha..ha.. I am FTM too.

[murkymidnight]

"It comes in the mail next Tuesday"

LMFAO!