The Downside of Dating SINGLE MOTHERS

In this video I discuss 8 reasons why a lot of men refuse to get into a serious relationship with a woman who has kids. Outrageously funny but informative at the same time.

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[LacyTuber]

some of these comments are offensive, i'm a 20 year old single mother and i'm a single mother by choice because my son's "father" was abusive and controlling. i'm a single mother because i chose to yes, but would you want your son to grow up and think that hitting a woman and making her feel like dirt is alright? i'd hope not.

i'd also like to add that i have a boyfriend and he's not a "replacement" for my son's father. he is here for ME not my son, my son already has a father.

[JunebugObama]

@LacyTuber

Questions:

1) Why did you choose to have a baby at such a young age? What's the rush?

2) Why did you have a baby by a man who is "abusive and controlling" who makes you feel like dirt?

3) You say, "my son already has a father." Are you talking about the dude who is abusive? What kind of father can he be if he is abusive?

[LacyTuber]

@JunebugObama I didn't "choose" to have my son at a young age. When you're manipulated, forced to have sex unprotected and get pregnant you have a choice to make. I'm not trying to pick a fight here it just bothers me when people generalize certain topics. Sometimes being a single mother by choice is the BEST choice for you and your child(ren). He isn't very much of a father but that still doesn't mean i'll replace him with my boyfriend.

[JunebugObama]

@LacyTuber I'm not arguing with you or putting you down...I'm just trying to understand. You say you were "forced to have sex unprotected and get pregnant". Are you saying you were raped??? If he raped you, why didn't you call the police and have him arrested? 

[LacyTuber]

@JunebugObama I wasn't raped, but if I refused he wouldn't even look at me. Much like many young girls, after I learned I was pregnant I thought a baby would "fix" everything. He said he wanted to have a son, I got pregnant, he didn't stop cheating but the physical abuse stopped. In my opinion emotional abuse is much more extensive though and that's where he got me. We're no longer together and he's taking me to court in March so he can have his son on weekends, which won't happen.

[JunebugObama]

@LacyTuber I'm going to educate you of something just like I would if you were my niece or my little sister. If he didn't rape you, this means YOU CHOSE to have unprotected sex with an abusive man and as a result have a baby. You could have said, "No!" and walked away, which is what responsible practical people do.

You say, "If I refused he wouldn't even look at me." Are you telling me you could NOT leave him and find a better quality man to have a relationship with?

[vincent15641]

Why do single mothers think they are a good catch? Should any man feel honored to be given the opportunity to raise another man's kids? Should he be content with a woman whose body has been stretched out of shape from her pregnancies from other men?

Also notice that single mothers often lower their height and looks requirements for a man, which means he is a PLAN B guy for the sake of security for her kids- and not for whatever she may consider to be love.

[agenthelios1]

@LacyTuber ALL you single mothers say "its by choice" but you have to say that because no one wants you....at least no one that is successful. Thats REAL talk.

[wowerman]

@LacyTuber do you know something called contraception??complain only to yourself

[chaaanna]

That was informative, I'm a single mum and my advice is to be patient. It's a good time to reconnect with yourself and find out what u really want in life, I'm very sure a man that is at your level will be attracted no matter if u have kids or not. To be on the safe side wait for him to pursue you because that would mean he has included everything spoken about in the video before making that decision to ask you out. :)

[QUBECOGNITO]

Single moms are a no! no! I've been out with one and they are some self-centered opportunist. If you see one and she likes you. RUN!

[cmp2nite2]

What about a girl with only one kid and its a very young girl isnt that the, most ideal in this less diserable situation lol. It seems the most do able if you like the girl.

[Aonexia]

@vincent15641 Respect!

[delta6335]

@LacyTuber We are not saying you are a bad person; or that you have made some very bad choices in your life which you now have to live with (but that could be said); We are saying that **we** do not think that what you have to offer is worth the hassles, costs and risks to us is worth the trade. I'd rather have a girl with no kids, so she can have mine. Moral of the story> choose your mate wisely..