Knob of a father....what to do?

During social events, a father demeans his daughter calling her "fat, stupid, and ugly" destroying her self esteem right in front of me. How do I not ring this dudes neck??!!!

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• father verbal abuse
• body image
• eating disorders
• anorexia
• bulimia
• ednos

[SucculentSaskie]

As a survivor of childhood abuse (and make no mistake, what you're describing *is* verbal/emotional abuse) I'd agree with the suggestion to give the girl your blog info, maybe some books, and just offer to be there if she needs to talk or anything. Confronting an abusive parent, while it is the brave and "right" thing to do, will likely just end in a situation where he won't allow you contact with his daughter, thereby eliminating the possible support network/connection.

[AynenMakino]

Problem with confronting the father is that unless you can garrentee the daughter's safety it can end up making things worse for her. Where-as if you approach the girl and give her the right example to take all the right steps it can stay under the radar of a father who might create severe consequences towards the daughter if he knows what's going on. A father like that is unlikely to listen to reason, it takes an unreasonable train of thought to be like that to a child.

[jperschke1]

I really hope that you not only pulled this kid aside, but stuck up for her when her dad was putting her down. It sounds like this man thinks he can walk all over people. If someone said, "Hey, dude, that's not cool!" he might start to think. I doubt it would change anything, but I think that this girl needs to see that not only does her dad have a problem, but he can't control her or anyone else and it's okay to stand up for yourself, even to your parents.

[airinggrievances]

Yes! Help her! It could mean the difference between an empowered person and someone who is struggling forever! I had help and now I can looks at my abuse through a different lens! You are awesome! Please help her and anyone you meet!!!

[InspireYOURS3LF]

i have this problem the majority of the time except itsmy brother & sometimes my mum too:(

[roatking]

i was out fishing a few weeks ago and watched a dude treat his kids like that...but it's not my buisiness.i said "shut the fuck up" loud enough a couple times. i try to stay away, cause it never has a happy ending... my broken hands, or a broken face.:(

[khh1964]

You know my Dad was my biggest hero, so his constant criticism of my ability to do things (since I'm a guy) developed inferiority complex. It's tough, 26, it still comes and goes. The best thing I ever did was confront him, yell back at him, since he really does love me, he shut up and took it in. Oddly enough, I'm always thankful that he was not physically abusive like his father. He was afraid to have kids and end up like his Dad. He just was very critical and mad

[rstuart73]

What a nightmare, on all the family. How do tell it to the knob?

[wellwotis]

My dad was like that, he told me i was fat from the age of 6 and so now i suffer from an eating dissorder and i hurt myself. I wish someone had said something to my dad & i wish someone had told me earlier that I was ok, I wasn't useless or fat and or ugly. If i were in ur possition I would try to help the girl and if I ever heard her dad saying anything, i would tell him exactly what i thought of him! what have you got to loose? thank you for your videos, there really encouraging.xx

[no1seems2care]

Given this video was posted 5 months ago did you say anything to the girl?

[lhsdixiedoll]

my father is like that but if I say anything Ill just get in trouble

[weaveamyweave08]

How do u not ring his neck? By ringing his brain with your intellegence! Put together a disc of your fav. videos from ppl on here telling "their" stories...ADD THIS ONE! Maybe he'll watch it after you bring him down a few notches with your words? Who knows. But, I would ALSO do as you are thinking and talk to this girl. What her Dad is doing (in front of her?) to her IS verbal abuse is it not?!? I certainly would consider it that! You r an AMAZING woman! Keep fighting for her!xo~a