Re: A homosexual experience

homosexuality isn't a choice. At some point we all wrestle with our feelings and question our identity but in the end we are who we are and there's nothing wrong with that.

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[Hellz1stslayer]

At the end u say "this is who i want to be" Yes is is who u WANT to be not who you ARE. I belive homosexuality is a choice. If it is from how u were raised or bad experiences u had it is a choice. No man is born with a sexual atraction to a nother man same with a woman. they are born like any other person and make that choies later on in their life. I know many people disagree with me but i have listend to your side and tryed to reply in the most respectfull way i coul plz do the same for me.

[phunkybrats]

You've misunderstood what I said. It's what I am and who I want to be. If this were a choice like me ask this: Why would anyone choose to be hated?

[phunkybrats]

it's interesting...we're told we need to know who we are and what we want and when we find out and get what we want life still isn't clear but filled with more confusion.

[Telekon5]

If being gay is a choice, then when do straight people wake up and decide oh, today's the day I'm going to decide to be straight? It just doesn't happen that way. Sexual orientation unfolds slowly over time, it's not something you hold a committee meeting over.

[DAVIDAMORSE1701]

As a matter of law its important to know its not a choice. If it were merely a choice than gay marriage is not a civil right. Gays in the military could remain as is. The fact is that its not a choice. I would ask, when did you choose to be straight? That's not a trick question. If you believe gays choose to be, its a reasonable question. Love is not just a matter of the plumbing as one man said to me. Attraction to a person is more complex.

[DAVIDAMORSE1701]

Hellz1stslayer: Being gay is not a choice. Nobody chooses who turns them on. You are born attracted to whomever you are. Nobody makes a choice. I was married and I could never have sex with a man. The thought just makes me turned off. I don't mean I hate gays, I respect all people, but I couldn't make love to a man. To say its a choice is just dumb. I never made a choice to love a woman. Girls just always excited me.

[robbieLUVZdianne]

okay if homosexuality was a choice, why would gay people choose to be in a minority and choose to be someone that get verbally and sometimes physically abused and attacked by homophobic people?

[lizzatk]

Have you ever watched Stephen Fry's 'The Secret Life of the Manic Depressive'? He proposed, to his bipolar interviewees, a button that they could press, which would remove the condition permanently.

I wouldn't press it, neither for my homosexuality nor my bipolar disorder. Why? Because to do so would make me less than myself. In THAT I have a choice - the choice of a non-existant button that would change my thoughts, my feelings - the very essence of myself (my soul, if you will).

[lizzatk]

I am a lesbian. I have bipolar disorder. I have had the same lack-of choice in both aspects of my life - they have played out, more-or-less, in the exact same way. I am not ashamed of being either, but they both can make my life very difficult.

[KapitanoUK]

"I belive homosexuality is a choice."

What do you actually know about the subject? Have you spoken to lots of gay people about it? Have you read any books about it? Have you even googled to find out if there's evidence one way or the other?

It's very simple. If you don't know enough to have an opinion, don't have one. There's no shame in saying "I don't know".

Plus there's the small matter of why anyone should CARE whether homosexuality is a choice or not, but that's for another time.

[nuclearspike]

You are making declarative statements... "no man is born with a sexual attraction to another man" what research are you referencing? With what authority are you speaking? How do you know this?