Narcissist's Cycles of Ups and Downs

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As narcissistic supply waxes and wanes, the narcissist goes through cycles: a depressive phase is followed by hibernation for recuperation purposes and then the emission of a "narcissistic signal": a call for new narcissistic supply.

(From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)

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[thejihadresistance]

I like your videos.

[quicksilver3x3]

Damn, the human mind is sickly complex, isn't it? This helps me avoid being caught in that enchanting "web" again, to understand what's going on, thank you.

[cocobogey]

there must be some sociobiological foundation for the development of the narcissistic mind ... only this video has adequately explained the extremely confusing "manic depressive" behavior of my psychopathic ex - often cycling within the space of a day which had me completely confounded ... but it followed all of the idiosyncracies explicated here ... except they aren't idiosyncracies ... they seem to be the laws of the narcissistic personality ...

[Kathydrel]

My biggest problem was FEAR , I only imagined the worst happening until someone said it's just as easy to immagion a good outcome . The bible tells us over a hundred times to fear not, so once you identify what you are afraid of ask God to take that fear away. Then you can set boundaries without worrying about the outcome .

[Kathydrel]

Fernsprite, I'm sorry to hear of your pain : ( that being said , he can no longer have control of your emotions. He can not "Make" you sad , he can not "make" you happy. It is hard to get control of your feelings ,but in my case I have asked God to help me do what I can not do, and the strength to do what I can. The bible has renewed my mind ( I was part of the problem) and slowly with the help of Sam's book and video's things have turned around. Thank God!

[HoGraz]

How does psylocybin affect narcism?

[tinyctlo]

Artists are somewhat N's?

[fernsprite]

@fernsprite Let me add that I’ve been married to this man for 23 yrs, he will lie & not blink an eye over the most silly & hurtful things, he picks at all of us to get a rise & reaction, yet if you met him you’d think he was a great guy. His mother & 2 siblings are Just The Same! His treatment of us is a Horrific Embarrassment, therefore No One would Ever Believe me if I started to talk because I was to Ashamed to even tell anyone about it, & That is what he Thrives & Counts On!

[fernsprite]

This explains my husbands crazy all over the place behaviors Perfectly! I can tell when he comes home from work, if he’s in a bad mood he’s going to fester some drama up to feed off of, that means he didn’t feed at work! And children are Not Exempt to this Horrific Sick Twisted drama of a feeding frenzy. I have Never understood Why he's treated our 4 daughters & I this way, now I do. What is the Purpose of these ppl, to Torcher & Destroy others for their own sick twisted pleasure?? I feel sick

[kellycat2552]

At 84, in a wheelchair and paralyzed by Parkinsons disease, my narcisistic mother, has weaved her web around a man who is in his 80's and a new resident of her assisted living home. She has done me a great favor by pouring her attention to getting his attention and left me alone, at last. She constantly needed my attention until now. Her demands on me have lessened. She was busy destroying my reputation at her facility and my relaitonship with my brother, aunt and cousins is destroyed.

[organysntracey1]

@organysntracey1 ...to be more clear: "I've been with my NARC for 18 years," and "the confusion at ppls reactions around me" were about my sadistic narcissist spreading lies, rumors, and the last straw (he slipped and admitted during one of his last rages) that he had gotten me fired from my last job (he didn't, but I did need to leave because of his interference). After I found that out, I suspect he had done it with a job before that - I noticed the same patterns, etc.

[Kathydrel]

I must say Sam, I'm getting tiered ... My N is like a blow up doll with a hole in it. If you don't keep pumping him up he deflates... Then even if he is home all weekend I may as well be alone. Thanks for the company Sam.