Practical options for improving self respect - part 1 of 2

Perspectrive on what "self respect" is and isn't, and where it comes from. "Low self esteem" (excessive shame) is one of six epidemic psychological "wounds" acquifed in a traumatic childhood. In adulthood, it can be intentionally replaced by non-egotistical self-respect (pride) and self-love via the options in part 2 of this video series. For background, see http://sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/shame.htm

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• Peter Gerlach

[zabelicious]

I have an unusually high self-esteem, self-respect and high on my integrity scale, what do you think might have been the cause of my wounds? I had a safe early up-bringing but my parents marriage broke down later in my teen years. I started to experiment early with risky behaviors and continued well into adulthood. Most of my friends were sexually abused as children, why do I seem to attract them and gain their trust easily considering they had trust issues for the most part of their lives?

[gercacn]

My experience suggests that we wounded kids and adults are unconsciously attracted to each other - perhaps because we sense a kinship or special empathy. My compassionate hunch is that your childhood may not have been as "safe" (nurturing) as you remember it to be.Divorce is a symptom of significant psychological wounds and unawareness - which silently pass down the generastions.

[Sheraseven]

My counselor just told me that shame quickly turns to anger. Shame may be a form of self hate.

[gercacn]

My experience suggests that anger follows hurt, injury, or threat - NOT shame. I see self-hatred as a RESULT of shame. Either way, the healing goal becomes shifting self-dislike, distrust, and self-disrespect toward guilt-free self-respect. trust, and love. See sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/shame.ht­m and sfhel;p.org/gwc/selflove.htm

[PrismaticTear]

I have felt this way my entire life :44-58. I can now see, that I never did heal from something tramatic that happened to me when I was a child. I hid the fact I felt this way and still do.

I want to change and improve what's going on inside of me. Thank you for this information (:

[Sheraseven]

Interesting you should mention submissiveness. It was seen as a good quality in my church. Men were in charge because of the story of Adam and Eve yet in that story, Adam isn't really much of a hero.

[TheKibeer]

For those of us hooked on pop culture explanation:

'Approval of others' in explained

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