Hi Derek, I'm just watching the video's of your son. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope your okay, my heart is with you both. Bless your son and you. On the third video now. I pray you found one another :) Love cat

GOD bless you REAL dad. You were worthy of raising this child. I hope that one day your son understands that you were a victim, too. What that couple did and is doing is a crime. Your son has a right to know who he is. OPEN ADOPTION IS A LIE!!!! The only thing that open adoption does is to string the real parents along into believeing that they will be a part of the child's life. It is a hook to get young, scared people into relinquishing their most beloved child. It is all a lie. Once the couple gets what they want (baby), they can do whatever they want. It is a hook to sell a baby. Adoption is just a nice way of saying that babies are being sold---human chattel!!!!

One of the guilt trips that the agency who tried to get my baby from me was that I WAS NOT MARRIED. The baby needed a stable married couple. As if you need to be married to love a child. Anyway at the time (1983), the divorce rate was already nearly 50%. So whether my daughter was with me (unmarried) or with an adoptive couple, she probably would end up in a single family home. Actually, my husband and I got married when she was 10. We've been married for almost 16 years. Believe me when I tell you that my daughter had the best life with me. The only thing that made it terrible was the social workers who were constantly trying to take her away based solely on my age and of the fact that I didn't have husband i it without anyone. I love my daughter. There is nothing that could take her from me. Adoption is a business. Take the money out of it and you will see the adoption industry fold into nothing. Adoption as we know it will not exist.

Open adoption is a total lie!!! Don't ever believe what "they" say about so-called open adoption!!!! It is complete fabrication!!! It is a hook to get the real parents to relinquish their rights. I know this for a fact!!!

She probably was forced into it.

As a birthmother myself, I find your story incredibly moving; I pray that you are reunited with your son sooner rather than later. I am lucky enough to have honest and open adoptive parents to my son, but stories like yours haunt me.

Thanks for posting your story--One everyone should see. It is unbelievable and horrendous the open adoption agreement can't be enforced. Perhaps the adoptive mother knew all along she would not tell your son he is adopted. The agency is guilty for not informing you upfront on the legalities of the agreement and then they can tell you, "you made an adoption plan". All B.S.--the agency has made the plan and you followed the protocol. Agencies are very slick when it comes to laying out the plan and leaving out pertinent details. -Agencies began using "making an adoption plan" in the early 90's. Makes we want to throw up. I am one of a small number who was reunited with my son by the Lutheran agency in Chicago agency. Your agency did not help you at all...I hope they didn't tell you--you were making an adoption plan.

My heart is really breaking for you after following your story. I think that there should be laws enforcing open adoption agreements. I am an adoptive mom of a 3 year old. Our adoption is very open and we have monthly visits with his birthmom. Unfortunately his birth father has decided not to participate for now although I do continue to send him pictures and updates. Above all, I believe my son has a right to know the people who gave him life and chose me to be his mom. I also believe every adopted perosn should be told their adoption story early and often so they can integrate it into their whole identity and not have to grapple with it later on. I hope you are getting some emotional support for all you have been through and I also hope that you will have a happy reunion with your son.